Dealing with a narcissist can be emotionally draining and complex, especially when you decide to confront their behavior. Understanding the potential outcomes of calling out a narcissist is crucial for your emotional well-being and for preparing your next steps.
Here are ten things you might expect:
Denial and Gaslighting
Narcissists are experts at denying their own behavior and gaslighting their victims. When confronted, they often twist the truth and question your sanity to deflect responsibility.
“In Sheep’s Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People” by George K. Simon provides insights into these manipulative tactics and how to handle them.
Anger and Retaliation
Expect a narcissist to react with anger. They might become verbally aggressive or retaliate in other ways to regain control.
Playing the Victim
Narcissists are skilled at playing the victim. They may portray your confrontation as an attack, seeking sympathy from others.
Narcissists often project their own faults onto others. In calling them out, be prepared to have your own faults (real or imagined) thrown back at you.
In some cases, narcissists will resort to love bombing post-confrontation. This is an attempt to win you over again with excessive affection and attention.
Narcissists may start smear campaigns to discredit you. They often tell others that you are the one with the problem.
“Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself” by Shahida Arabi offers strategies to counteract these smear campaigns and regain your independence.
Refusal to Take Responsibility
Rarely do narcissists take responsibility for their actions. Instead, they find ways to justify their behavior.
Manipulation of the Truth
Narcissists are known to manipulate facts. Expect them to tell half-truths or outright lies to make their case.
Attempts to Reassert Control
A narcissist’s main goal is to maintain control. They might use various tactics, from guilt-tripping to making threats, to reestablish dominance.
In some cases, once you’ve called out a narcissist, they may discard you. This abrupt end can be hurtful, but might also be a step towards your freedom from their toxic influence.
“Psychopath Free: Recovering from Emotionally Abusive Relationships With Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other Toxic People” by Jackson MacKenzie is an empowering guide for healing after being discarded by a narcissist.
Navigating a relationship with a narcissist is challenging, but understanding these potential reactions can empower you to handle the situation more effectively. Whether you decide to stay or leave, prioritize your mental health and seek support from trusted friends, family, or professionals.