If you’re with someone you think might be hurting you overall or bringing you down, chances are you’re right. Toxic people are more obvious than we tend to realize and while we often give them the benefit of the doubt, they typically don’t deserve it.
All too often, good people end up falling for narcissists who wish to do nothing more than use them for a while and move onto the next. For those who do not know, narcissists are people who have something that many refer to as NPD or narcissistic personality disorder. Overall, true narcissists are not as abundant as people make them out to be, but they are present in the world, and they can ruin your life if you allow them to.
Narcissists tend to be quite full of themselves and often act as if they are better than, well, everyone. They believe that most rules do not apply to them, and they go out of their way to tear down the people close to them for their own reasons. They are manipulative, demanding, and quite arrogant.
If you’re in a relationship with a narcissist chances are they’re going to be charming and kind at first and then as soon as they have you where they want you things will change. They will shift into someone you cannot recognize and, well, from there things will only get worse. Below I am going to go over some of the signs of narcissistic abuse and well if you’re going through these things you should know that moving on and cutting ties is your best option.
11 Signs Of Narcissistic Abuse:
1. You’re always questioning yourself because of things this person says.
A lot of the time, you find that you’re questioning yourself and the things you’re doing. The more you work at pleasing them, the more unhappy they seem to become. It’s like you’re not doing anything right, even though you’re doing all you can and working so hard to please them.
2. This person is always making harsh jokes or saying things to bring you down.
While you’ve opened up before and told them how their harsh jokes make you feel, they still do them and say whatever they want. It’s almost as if they go out of their way to say mean things about you. They want you to feel bad and tear you down any chance they get.
3. You are isolated from your friends and family.
This person has isolated you from your friends and family. Little by little, they’ve broken you down and forced you to push away anyone who would support you if you decided to leave them. This is their means of keeping you under their control.
4. It’s like you’re not allowed to make your own decisions anymore.
While you might want to go and do things on your own, this person is always pushing you to only do things he or she wants you to do. You’re not really allowed to be yourself anymore, and you feel like you’re a shell of who you once were. They do this for a reason and always want to be in control, that much you should have picked up on already.
5. You are always walking on eggshells around this person.
Because of how this person lashes out at you, you’re always on edge around them. You don’t feel comfortable with them around, which should not be how things are overall. The more this person breaks you down, the more nervous you become when he or she is near.
6. They always blame you for things that they did wrong, even though you had no control over the matter at hand.
While it might not sound like much at first, and you do your best not to let it get to you, this person never takes responsibility for his or her actions. He or she always blames you, even when you’re not the person in the wrong. It’s like they want someone to throw their problems on, and you’re the best or easiest option.
7. They brush off all of the issues you bring up and refuse to communicate.
When you try to talk to this person, they always refuse to communicate properly. They ignore you and brush things off. It’s like they don’t want to try and fix the problems that are before and well, that’s because they don’t.
8. You feel like you’re always going out of your way to get on this person’s good side.
You are always doing your best to get this person to smile and show you their nice side. While it doesn’t come out much anymore you’re doing your best to please them and trying your hardest. This is not good for your overall wellbeing and will only bring you down further in the long-run.
9. It’s like this person doesn’t care about you or others at all.
When you show this person your feelings, he or she doesn’t seem bothered at all. While they may apologize from time to time, you know they don’t mean the things they say. They don’t care, and that much is apparent.
10. This person is always looking for ways to show their dominance.
They are always looking for means of control. If they can force you into something or get something over someone, they will. Being in control for them is one of the most important things in their lives.
11. This person likes to tell you what to do but refuses to listen to you.
This relationship overall is not give and take on both ends, it’s more like give all you can while the narcissist takes it from you and keeps asking for more. They never offer anything back to the relationship, and it’s hard to swallow. The more you try, the less they want to deal with you, honestly.