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The search for ‘the one’ can be a long and frustrating one, requiring you to kiss a lot of toads before you uncover your prince. Stay strong! Stay single. Don’t settle for just anyone, you deserve nothing but the best in this life, and he’s out there waiting for you!

Growing up, we are taught the importance of finding that true, romantic love. As children, we spend much of your time engaged in fairy tales, stories of love’s ability to conquer all and dreaming about finding our own happily-ever-after. As we grow older, the reality of this search begins to set in. On one hand, we’re constantly reminded just how many fish are in the pond, giving us hope that there are countless options. On the other hand, however, we watch our peers finding love, getting married and starting families, triggering a reminder of our biological clock within.

single To navigate the complexities of love and relationships, “The Course of Love” by Alain de Botton is a thoughtful exploration of what happens after two people fall in love.

Be careful that you don’t fall into the habit that so many do, settling with someone ‘good enough’ simply because it’s comfortable and easy. Instead, stand strong on your own as an independent, single woman while you search for the real ‘Mr. Right’. True love is out there waiting for you!

Stay single until you find the person who cares about you enough to do these 10 things:

#1 – They make you feel more different than you have ever felt before.

It’s a statement that you often hear when you talk to people who have found their ‘soulmate’, describing the way that they feel as a love unlike any other. You may have dated other people in the past, and even been in love with others in the past, but there is something about this particular relationship that is different. They bring you a sense of joy and happiness that is stronger than anything you’ve felt before.

#2 – They are honest and trustworthy, never leaving you questioning the truth.

There is enough negativity in this world, you don’t need to settle for someone that is going to bring it into your relationship as well. Hold out for someone who always tells you the truth, even if it’s difficult. When they speak, you never have to question the words that they are saying because you know without a doubt that they are being completely honest with you.

#3 – They love you completely, including all of your quirks and flaws.

Let’s be completely honest, not one of us is actually perfect, even if we may try to give off the impression that we are. When you find that special someone, they love every aspect of who you are as a person, including your little quirks, flaws, and inconsistencies. After all, they are part of what makes you an individual.

#4 – They are genuinely proud to be with you.

Don’t waste your time with someone that hides you away from family and friends or is only interested in spending time with you when you are behind closed doors. True love means being genuinely proud to spend your life with this person. Wait for someone who is more than happy to walk down the street with you on their arm because they want everyone to know that you’re together.

For insight into creating a fulfilling and genuine relationship, “Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love” by Dr. Sue Johnson can offer guidance on fostering a deeper connection with a partner.

#5 – They are willing to open up and be vulnerable with you, sharing their deepest emotions.

If someone is truly in love with you, then they want to share themselves with you completely, including both the good and the bad. They are willing to tear down any barriers they may have previously built around their heart, allowing you full access.

#6 – They make you feel more confident in your own skin.

Your partner should love you so much for you who you are, that you begin to feel more comfortable in your own skin. You know that your partner loves you for who you are, whether you’re dressed to go out on a fancy date, or simply lounging in your ‘around the house’ clothing. Wait for someone who builds you up, helping you to see just how amazing you truly are.

#7 – They care about spending time with you so much that they will go out of their way to fit it into their schedule.

When you meet ‘the one’, you both genuinely appreciate every moment spent together. In fact, your partner truly enjoys spending time with you so much that they will go out of their way to make time for you in their schedule. They will move things around, make sacrifices and prioritize you in their life.

#8 – They make you feel safe and secure in this crazy world.

The society we live in can be a little hard to handle at times, in fact, it can be completely overwhelming. You are going to face some challenges, whether it’s a big move, losing a job, grieving the loss of a loved one or dealing with health-related issues. Throughout these times, you want to be with someone that is going to go out of their way to make you feel safe and secure, helping you to work through the struggles and come out even stronger on the other side.

#9 – They take the time to call or message just to check on you.

There are going to be times in life where you get busy and life takes over. This may mean not having the opportunity to see one another for a period of time, but that shouldn’t mean not thinking about one another! When they can’t be there to see you in person, they take the time to call you or send a message so that they can check on how you’re doing.

#10 – They cannot imagine their life without you in it.

You aren’t just someone that they enjoy spending time with or like having around. Anytime that they think about the future, these plans, goals, and dreams include you. You’re an important part of their life, and they can’t imagine having it any other way.