While we do get busy sometimes we are never actually as busy as we make ourselves out to be. Sure, it might be hard to make time but time can always be made.
If someone is telling you that they’re too busy to even reply to your text and let you know they’re alright – they’re lying. If you mattered to them they would take that less than half of a second to reply. For some reason, we put a priority on people who refuse to do the same for us.
If someone doesn’t have an hour to spend with you here and there or at least refuses to make time to spend with you, they aren’t worth the effort you’re giving them. Of course, it sucks to come to terms with this but you have to face it if you want to move on. We as human beings get to choose who and what we put our energy into don’t let yourself get too down over not being chosen.
You do your best to find proper balance and be there for the people who need you the most and others are capable of the same. We all have things going on in our lives, balance might not look the same for all of us, but we can all find it. The people who refuse to make time for you don’t actually care for you and you need to let that sink in.
There is no point in waiting around for them to free up some time or for things in their lives to change because no matter what you still won’t be a priority. You don’t have to let them do that to you, you can move on from them and find someone who will care for you. While you shouldn’t resent them for their choices you should learn a lesson through their decisions as a whole.
“Instead of saying “I don’t have time” try saying “it’s not a priority,” and see how that feels. Often, that’s a perfectly adequate explanation. I have time to iron my sheets, I just don’t want to. But other things are harder. Try it: “I’m not going to edit your résumé, sweetie, because it’s not a priority.” “I don’t go to the doctor because my health is not a priority.” If these phrases don’t sit well, that’s the point. Changing our language reminds us that time is a choice. If we don’t like how we’re spending an hour, we can choose differently.”
Only fake friends will refuse to make time to hear you out when you’re really struggling. Real friends will drop what they’re doing and come be your shoulder to cry on for a moment when needed. The people who care would and will treat you the way you treat them. They will be there through the tough moments and at least let you know when something has come up.
We let people treat us how we think we deserve to be treated and honestly, that’s a load of bullshit. We all need to accept only the treatment we give forth. If someone isn’t going to make time for you, stop making time for them.
For a little more insight on this topic please check out the video below. People who care will make time for you, period. Don’t let anyone tell you differently.