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Just because you want to be with someone doesn’t mean things are going to work out. Intentions and efforts can only get you so far.

When someone decides they don’t want to be with you, nothing you do can change that if they’ve truly made up their mind. While it will hurt and you might not understand it right then, moving on is your only real option. If you continue to dwell and obsess over this person, you’re only hurting yourself much more than you have to.

For those struggling to understand and move on from unrequited love, Getting Past Your Breakup: How to Turn a Devastating Loss into the Best Thing That Ever Happened to You” by Susan J. Elliott offers practical advice and emotional support.

Love in this world is very rarely something between two people on an equal level. Most of the time it is one-sided and cold. That is a sad reality many of us have to come to terms with.

The more you fight for someone who has already made up their mind, the more behind you become. You chase a losing battle and give your all to someone who will never do-so in return for you, and that in itself is never a good thing. You might feel like you’re making progress, but at the end of the day if that person isn’t with you and refuses to define things, what is the point?

Through chasing this person and putting your efforts into them, you could be missing out on someone else, someone who would treat you right and care for you in all the ways you’ve never faced. Don’t limit yourself to the one person who doesn’t want you, when there are so many others out there who do.

To help readers refocus on their own well-being, The Self-Care Prescription: Powerful Solutions to Manage Stress, Reduce Anxiety & Increase Wellbeing” by Robyn L. Gobin, PhD is an excellent resource for cultivating self-love and healing.

When someone decides they don’t want to be with us, life doesn’t just stop. Life goes on, and we should continue moving through it no matter what. Embrace that pain and let the person who has hurt you go. If they wanted to be in your life, they would still be in your life.

It might not be easy, but you can overcome the pain you feel in regard to this person. At the end of the day, you must take care of yourself. Let your heart what it is feeling and then move on from that pain, leaving that person in the past. I know it’s a lot easier said than done but you will be able to accomplish all you set out to do.

A relationship in itself isn’t ever easy, and you need to be with someone who wants you just as much as you want them. Life is a lot easier than you might imagine it as being if you embrace your wants and needs properly, all the while caring for yourself on a real level. The people who refuse to love us properly don’t deserve our tears, and we can find someone better once we are over them in general.

There is nothing wrong with being single and even if you still miss the person who left your life, don’t’ give them power over you. Don’t let them leave you longing for their presence each night. Consider all the bad things you’re getting rid of by them not being around anymore, and grow properly above all else.

For inspiration in embracing single life and personal growth, The Art of Being Single: Live a Life You Love” by Lauren Zander provides insights and encouragement for finding happiness and fulfillment outside of a relationship.