If you have ever felt the sting of betrayal, then you know that it can be incredibly hard to find it in your heart to forgive those that have done you wrong. After all, this is a violation of your trust, and the road to rebuilding trust is a long and difficult one. However, the process is far more challenging for some than others.
Your personality traits and characteristics play an important role in determining the way that you experience and react to outside situations. For example, the experience of having a romantic partner lie to you is a difficult one for many. However, for someone that is overly sensitive, this will strike the heart in a much more profound and damaging way than it would for someone who has built significant walls and barriers around their heart before this moment to protect themselves from this kind of pain.
Trust is a necessary building block for any healthy, lasting relationship. It is for this reason that it is one of the most discussed topics among relationship experts and life coaches. Unfortunately, while it may be hard to admit, we live in a world where we are inevitably going to be hurt or betrayed in some way in our lives. Minor betrayals are often overlooked, white lies that have no significant impact on our lives and therefore not worth the energy it would take to address them, however, when those betrayals become ‘major’, or if minor betrayals continue to build up, it can lead to the complete destruction of an otherwise happy relationship.
If you have done something to violate the trust of your romantic partner or a close friend, there MAY still be an opportunity to make amends and salvage what is left of your relationship. First and foremost, you need to stand up and accept responsibility for the actions you have taken or words you have said. Don’t seek excuses or try to defend your choices, this will only lead to another argument. Instead, acknowledge the pain that you have caused and follow this up with a sincere apology. However, you need to prepare yourself for the fact that they may not accept it. Would you be able to handle that rejection?
There are some people who will willingly offer a second chance regardless of what may have happened. Believing the best in people, they open both their arms and their heart to welcome back anyone who asks for their forgiveness. However, there are others whose personality will lead to exactly the opposite decision. When faced with betrayal, they refuse to be hurt again. For this reason, they close all doors and may never be convinced to open them again.
Warning, these 4 zodiac signs will refuse to forgive your betrayal regardless of how hard you may try:
Taurus (Apr 20 – May 20)
Strong and stubborn, there are few signs as loyal as a Taurus, and they demand the same in return. It is for this reason that they don’t let just anyone into their lives, as they don’t trust easily. However, when they do open their heart to someone then they will move heaven and earth to keep them happy, healthy and safe in any way possible. It is for this reason that betrayal is so damaging for them, as it will completely blindside them. In time they will learn to forgive themselves for allowing you into their life, but don’t expect them to extend that forgiveness to you. They are masters of holding grudges.
Scorpio (Oct 23 – Nov 21)
While others may simply refuse to allow you back into their lives, that’s not going to be enough for a Scorpio to move past your betrayal. Instead, they need revenge and it’s not going to be pretty. These highly passionate individuals love with all their heart, but don’t’ be fooled – they possess an incredible temper and you do NOT want to be on the receiving end of it! If you have betrayed a Scorpio, your best bet is to put distance between you as soon as possible and watch your back. You won’t see them coming, but you’ll certainly know when they deliver their fatal blow.
Capricorn (Dec 22 – Jan 19)
Those born under the sign of Capricorn aren’t exactly known for their emotions, choosing instead to live their lives based on logic and fact. They pride themselves on the ability to logically think through all that they do, making only the most educated, knowledgeable and well thought out decisions. It is for this reason that betrayal is so difficult for them, as they truly believe that they should have seen it coming. They will try to hide their pain and disappointment from you, eager to quickly erase this mistake from their lives entirely but understand that deep down they are highly emotional and sensitive people. That kind of pain is something they rarely if ever get over.
Aquarius (Jan 20 – Feb 18)
Highly individual and determined, those born under the sign of Aquarius are often cold and distant at the best of times, determined that they can live their life without ‘needing’ anyone. They take pride in their strength, and so it is hard to accept that someone had enough influence in their lives to cause them pain. Refusing to acknowledge that they may have let down their guard or to give anyone around them the satisfaction of seeing them squirm they will quickly put up barriers, keeping everyone else in the world out. They don’t need anyone, and you’ve officially given them a reason to never let you back in.
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