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Why is it that so many people waste their time chasing people who don’t want to be chased? What exactly is the appeal of putting your all into someone who refused to put their all into you?

For some reason, in this day and age, we as human beings tend to fall for people who just aren’t interested in us. We keep wasting our time trying to make them fall for us when that’s just not going to happen. At the end of the day, we’re not going to be able to force someone to love us and we shouldn’t be trying to do-so.

If you’re trying to make someone fall for you who has already shown that they’re not interested, you need to stop wasting your time. Instead of chasing after this person and putting all your efforts towards making them fall for you, why not do something productive or find someone who actually wants to be in your life? You deserve a love that is real and full of proper connections, not one that is fabricated and one-sided.

People cannot be made to do things that they don’t want to do, especially when it comes to this kind of situation. If they truly don’t want to be with you, they’re never going to be with you, and you’re only hurting yourself by pursuing them further. If they really cared about you they wouldn’t lead you on or pretend that you didn’t even matter to them at all and the sooner you come to terms with this the better.

These people might give you a little here and there or leave you thinking they’re trying to consider you but honestly, they’re just playing with your heart and they will never truly love you in the way that you love them. They won’t be able to understand your feelings, and they won’t be able to give you back what you’re giving to them. They’re just using you and that’s something that you really need to begin to see as soon as possible.

This might not be the way you wanted things to play out, but you can’t change how things are and you can’t go back and make them turn out differently, it just doesn’t work like that. I am so sorry that you’re hurting, and I know that it’s something you’re going to need time to really get over, but you can find someone else when the time is right.

For now, you need to spend some time on your own working to figure out what you truly want in life and in love. Real love is worth the wait even if right now you cannot quite see that. Stop pushing so hard and trying to make pieces fit that never will. If this person cared about you at all he or she would be making that known and the fact that they’re not is all that you need, honestly.

Why keep putting yourself through so much pain and inner turmoil for someone who would never do the same for you? If this person won’t put the effort forth to make things work with you, they don’t deserve the efforts you’re putting forth at all. Real love isn’t supposed to be like this and I believe that deep down you already know that all too well.

Stop closing yourself off and putting your loyalty into someone who will never be loyal to you. You can and will find a love worth your time someday. Be true to yourself and work to be as happy as possible while you’re on your own so that when you come across that special someone, you’ll be ready for them.

There is no sense in breaking yourself down and letting another person walk all over you for the sheer idea of being in a relationship. There are people in this world who are meant to be let go of and this person is one of them. Someday you will understand this more properly but for now, please hear me out and allow these words to sink in.

You deserve so much more than that person who is constantly running away and breaking you down could ever offer you.