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So, you think you’ve found ‘the one’, the person you’re destined to spend your life with. Now comes the part that so many of us struggle with, that moment where you tell him just how you feel. If you’re struggling to find the right words, I’m here to help.

According to a Marist poll, the idea of soulmates isn’t lost in today’s society with 73% of Americans believing that they are destined to find their one true love. However, some relationship experts warn that as romantic as this notion may be, it could be driving a wedge between us and those that we love. Why? This concept enforces the idea that there’s a ‘perfect’ partner out there. So how do we respond when we find ourselves on the other side of the honeymoon phase, and our partner doesn’t look so perfect after all. This reality shatters the ‘perfect’ illusion, leaving many questioning their relationship altogether.

The truth is that love is anything but perfect. It’s messy, difficult, challenging and flawed in so many ways. Real love is that moment when you love your partner including these quirks. This means getting to know your partner’s personality and the best way to speak directly to their heart.

Each of us can share, feel and experience love in different ways. This theory is the underlying belief behind Gary Chapman’s ‘5 Love Languages’ series of books and workshops. This teaches couples that in order to tell our partner that we love them, we must first discover how they best experience love. This way we can talk in the language that will speak directly to their heart. This can also be determined by taking the time to assess and understand your partner’s zodiac sign, and what that, in turn, reveals about their personality.

What is the best way to tell your partner that you love him, according to his zodiac sign?

Aries (March 21 – April 19): Random Physical Expressions

While some people may rely on the words that they speak to express how they feel, Aries instead believes that love should be expressed through the smaller physical actions such as a quick kiss, holding hands or a passing hug. Therefore, the best way to tell them just how you’re feeling isn’t going to come through some elaborate poetry or confession of your feelings. Instead, pay attention to the smaller details. Did you kiss your partner good morning? Were you holding his hand as you walked through the mall? Aries men are incredibly open with their feelings, and they seek the same in return.

Taurus (April 20 – May 20): Speak to His Stomach

We’ve all heard the saying that the path to a man’s heart is through his stomach, but this is actually true when you’re talking about a Taurus man. They have a true love of life’s luxuries, with food high on their list of life’s greatest pleasures. Therefore, if you take the time to find out his favorite foods, you can use this love of food to show him just how strongly you feel. This may include cooking his favorite meal at home or planning a romantic night out at his favorite restaurant – either way, know that you’re setting the mood based on the plate before him. You’ll see it in his reaction.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20): Go Digital with Emojis

If you’ve fallen in love with a Gemini man, then you already know that he’s all about connection, communication and his gift of gab. Unfortunately, he’s also a little bit flighty and may not actually be paying enough attention to catch all that you’re trying to say if you express a long-winded account of just how you feel. Sum it up in a language that he will understand well and take straight to heart by selecting a couple love-focused emojis, like the one with heart eyes, or simply a collection of hearts. It may seem overly simplified, but it will quickly and easily open the door to you both sharing many ongoing conversations about your love for one another.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22): Family Introductions

Cancer men are family men, driven by their love and care for everyone that they hold dear. There is nothing more important to them than the social circle that they have developed, including both their friends and family. If they have welcomed you into this circle, that is their way of demonstrating just how important they see you in their life. Interested in telling your Cancer partner how you feel? Offer the same in return. Make arrangements for your partner to meet and spend time with your family. The fact that you are bringing them all together will mean more than any words you could share.

Leo (July 23 – August 22): Quality Time is Key

Dedicating their entire lives to demonstrating confidence, success, and bravery to the world, Leo men couldn’t be bothered with material gifts or empty words. Instead, they believe that the key to true love lies in the time you are willing to spend with your partner. If you want to show him how much you care, find a way to include him in your daily life. Invite him out to hang out with your friends, even if you aren’t doing anything major, or plan to tackle some of your usual activities as a team including grocery shopping or making dinner. It may not seem like that much to you, but it will mean the world to them.

Virgo (August 23 – September 22): Be Practical

If you’re currently dating a Virgo man, then you know that he’s a total perfectionist. Rather than fighting this tendency to keep everything in his life neat and in order, show him how much you care by stepping up and lending him a hand. Simply taking some of his responsibilities out of his hands (but still doing them to his expectations, will show him that you value and respect his thoughts and emotions. This includes making him dinner or doing the dishes. Sure, you can try something elaborate, but he will likely just see it as a waste of time and money. Instead, show him that you’re willing to put your own time and energy into your efforts.

Libra (September 23 – October 22): Romantic Settings

Libra men believe in true romance, however, they also need their partners to ‘set the mood’ if they are going to feel loved and appreciated. This may be done by planning the perfect date night complete with candles and mood music, or simply by spending an evening watching the sunset from a beautiful vantage point. He loves feeling appreciated and taking the time to make these plans and think through what would bring a smile to his face will show him that he’s on your mind. It doesn’t have to be expensive, it’s not about the money, it’s the thought that counts.

Scorpio (October 23 – November 21): Traditional Love Letters

When you’re considering those who fall under the sign of Scorpio, ‘traditional’ is likely one word you weren’t expecting to hear. However, despite their mysterious and stoic demeanor, Scorpio men are incredibly passionate and long for the more traditional ‘grand gestures’. Don’t just send an email or a text message, take the time to write out a beautiful love letter sharing your true feelings, sealing it in an envelope before presenting it to him. Additional ways to appeal to this love of romantic passion would be to dance and kiss in the rain or dress up for romantic candlelit dinners. Think of old-fashioned Hollywood romance.

Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21): Just Spit it Out

In case you haven’t already picked up on it, your Sagittarius partner isn’t interested in all the pomp and circumstance that so many people associate with love and romance. Instead, he wants you to skip all the over the top expressions and just tell him the truth. There is nothing that will speak more to a Sagittarius man than pure, raw emotion. Sit him down and just tell him exactly how you feel, without holding back. Be vulnerable and open your heart to him. He values openness and honesty.

Capricorn (December 22 – January 19): Make Plans for the Future

Capricorn men are very focused on where they are going in life, always making decisions based on their goals and dreams for the future. They see the time here and now as merely a journey with a destination in mind, and this is the key to his heart. Rather than trying to force him to step back and just focus on the ‘now’, appeal to this future focus. Talk about where you see yourselves 5, 10 or 15 years in the future. Share goals and dreams that include him and ask him about where he sees your relationship down the road. This will show a sincerity that he longs for more than anything.

Aquarius (January 20 – February 18): Plan a Romantic Getaway

If you want to appeal to the heart of an Aquarius, then you need to take their spontaneous, adventurous and unique approach to life in mind. Sure, they will enjoy a quiet romantic dinner with you, but don’t be surprised if you see their mind begin to wander if they find themselves feeling bored. If you really want them to feel just how much you care, plan some sort of grand adventure. Take your partner on a romantic getaway last-minute to somewhere fun and exciting. The fact that you want to travel with them will mean more than any material gift or emotional confession. Remember, he loves surprises!

Pisces (February 19 – March 20): A Well-Worded Text Message

I know, I know, we’re talking about the big secret to your man’s heart, and I’m suggesting something that most wouldn’t dream of being romantic. However, if you’re dating a Pisces man, then you already know that he’s an introverted and guarded individual who keeps his heart closely protected. This shouldn’t be the only way that you ever show him that you care, but a well-written text message can open the door to his heart. Know that he’s likely going to save this message so he can read it and re-read it anytime he needs to feel your love.