While we all benefit from being with someone we can grow and learn with, sometimes that ends up being one-sided at best. Sure, you might care for someone with all you have to offer but if they refuse to help themselves, there is nothing you can do about it.
When it comes to love we should not be searching for someone to fix or someone to become who we want them to be, we should be searching for someone we can already accept as they are. Acceptance is one of the most important things in life and in love. I know, this lesson is a hard one to learn but it’s one we all must let sink in sooner or later.
Below I am going to go over some of the different signs that you’ve fallen for someone who wasn’t worth your time or someone who just isn’t going to shape up how you might hope for them too. I know, giving up on someone you really want to have in your life is hard but sometimes it is necessary. The more aware you are of this the better you can work to protect yourself in the future. You deserve a love that gives to you as much as you give to it.
6 Signs Your Partner Is Using You:
1. Properly communicating with one another is next to impossible.
This person never wants to sit down and talk about the issues that come up. They shut you out and always cast your thoughts aside. Nothing you say or do seems to get through to them and the more you want to communicate the more they belittle you.
2. You’re always bending to their wants and making plans around their schedule while yours doesn’t matter to them at all.
You never simply make plans together. Everything is at their will or not at all. If you want to do something, you’re always having to run it by them and you feel smothered. This is because they want control of your life, entirely.
3. You always feel afraid to say no to them or turn them down.
Whenever you tell them no or turn them down they freak out. It’s like nothing you do makes a difference in how they react. Even when you can’t do something, they still feel like you should no matter what. It’s like your wants or needs just don’t matter.
4. You feel distant and uncared for no matter how hard you try to get through to them.
No matter how much you try to make them see you clearly and show them that you care, those feelings never seem to be reciprocated. The more you push the harder they pull but they also don’t want to let you go. They just don’t provide you with the emotional care that you need from a partner.
5. When they’re nice to you, you always feel like it’s too good to be true.
They are very cold towards you even if you’re doing all you can. When they are nice to you, they always seem to have ulterior motives. It’s like they will never do anything nice without wanting something in return.
6. They don’t really take the time to get to know you properly.
When you try to open up to them, they shut you down. They don’t want to get to know you but they do want you around. They don’t care about your interests or your friends just what they can gain by being at your side.