While a lot of people deal with narcissists and so forth in their lives, it’s hard to move on from them when you don’t really know what’s going on with them. Narcissists are not people you can fix and understanding that is very crucial.
Whether your narcissist is a friend, family member, or partner you need to know what they are and how they do the things they do in order to better understand what you’re facing. You can’t just expect them to apologize for hurting you and you can’t make them feel bad for something they just don’t feel bad about. You have to accept what this person is and from there you can do what needs to be done.
To kick things off people who are true narcissists are not going to care how you feel, and they’re going to be very controlling and manipulative. Once you know you’re facing something with one, you need to know how they work so that you can get yourself out of the situation you’re in. If this narcissist is close to you, you need to figure out if you need to limit exposure or cut ties completely.
Psychology Today broke down what narcissism is as follows which should give you a bit of insight:
It’s easy to describe someone who spends a bit too much time talking about her career or who never seems to doubt himself as a narcissist, but the trait is more complicated than that. Narcissism does not necessarily represent a surplus of self-esteem or of insecurity; more accurately, it encompasses a hunger for appreciation or admiration, a desire to be the center of attention, and an expectation of special treatment reflecting perceived higher status. Interestingly, research finds, many highly narcissistic people often readily admit to an awareness that they are more self-centered. A high level of narcissism, not surprisingly, can be damaging in romantic, familial, or professional relationships.
If someone is toxic towards you and they’re displaying all the signs of being a narcissist you should know that you do not have to keep giving them the gratification of being in your life and using you. It is ultimately up to you how you choose to proceed and oftentimes cutting contact completely is the best option. Accepting what this person is will help you to free yourself in the long-run. It can actually even for some work as a bit of closure whether it feels like that at first or not.
However, you shouldn’t use it to excuse the actions this person has done. They are still responsible for their wrongdoings whether they see things that way or not. You’re not the one making things hard, and you’re not the one in the wrong here. You need to accept that this person is trying to make you out to be the bad guy and that you’re never going to see eye to eye on the topic.
To learn more about all of this take a look at the video below. Narcissists can end up much closer than we tend to think they can. To begin with, they offer us all we could ever ask for but as time passes and they get you where they want you things change, and you deserve better. Don’t settle in life or in love.