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As we grow older we might not talk to our parents every day and for those who might not be able to find the time, that’s fine but being present with one another even if just for a mere phone call is important. It doesn’t make you a ‘momma’s boy/girl’ to still be in contact as much as you can be.

I am sure we all have our own reasons for keeping in contact with our parents or for perhaps not keeping in contact but if you have a decent relationship with your mom, reaching out more might not be a bad thing. I am the kind of person who talks to his/her mother every day not because I can’t go a day without her but because I like talking to her. I like keeping her updated on my life, and I am thankful that I still can talk to her.

So many people in my life have already passed, and I regret not being able to talk to my grandmother the way I am my mother now. She left this world when I was going through a phase of distancing myself from family overall and I will never forgive myself for missing out on the last few months of her life. I know calling my mom once a day or shooting her a text when I’m free brightens her day and I know she loves hearing from me.

My mother is one of the most important people in my life. She is the one who brought me into this world and took care of me until I was able to leave home. She taught me how to be a good person and never ceases to amaze me. I can’t see her every day, but I can make sure she’s aware that I miss her and that I do think of her.

She lived her life thinking of me every step of the way. She woke up early to make sure I was getting ready for school and that I had everything I needed. For 18 years her life revolved around me and now, I want her to know that while I have flown the coop, I still need her now. No, I don’t need her in the same ways, but she is still needed. I haven’t forgotten her and I never will.

I always want her to be a part of my life, a big part of my life. I never want her to question whether or not she’s bothering me. I want her to know that she is never a problem or a burden. That she can call me when she’s bored or if she just wants to hear my voice.

The relationship I have with my mother has had a lot of ups and downs throughout the years, but I am glad to say that right now things are great. We have our disagreements but she is happy that I am making a life for myself and including her each step of the way. I am very blessed to have a mother who taught me well and since my becoming an adult has become one of my closest friends.

It’s not uncool or silly to keep in touch. There is nothing wrong with being there for your mother in the ways she was there for you. I like doing small things for her and keeping her close. While it might not always seem like it, family matters. She could be gone in the blink of an eye and I want to know that I spent as much time with her as I could, I want every day to be one where I can reach out, and she can do the same.

Sure, you can hate on it all you want but at the end of the day, I am proud of the link I share with the woman who gave me life. She has made me stronger, and I still love hearing her advice. I would not trade the closeness I have with her for the whole world.

If it makes me a baby to have a good relationship with my mother then so be it. I will gladly be a baby. Keeping in touch only takes a few minutes out of my day and can honestly brighten my mood like nothing else. As my mother gets older I know that she knows this is one thing that will never change. I will always be there for her, and she will always be there for me.

Have you called your mom today?