We all know that one person, he or she is far too overly interested in his or her own needs and never takes anyone else into consideration. This person is self-absorbed and very frustrating in general, right?
Narcissists are not as common or as rare as people make them out to be, but they can be lurking in some of the most unexpected places. While narcissistic tendencies might not sound like much they can really drive a wedge between you and that person. Having self-esteem and letting your ego control you are two very different things and the world needs to realize that.
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Below I am going to go over some of the things people who are most likely narcissistic do. Some of these things might be a bit too close for comfort depending on the company you keep. If someone in your life does all of these things you might need to seriously consider cutting ties for your own wellbeing.
7 Things People Who Are Most Likely Narcissistic Do:
1. They seem very entitled.
The narcissist will act as if everyone owes him or her something. They think that because they are ‘better than everyone else’ they deserve more. They will try their best to get special treatment from everyone they meet.
2. They are very persuasive.
The narcissist will not stop. If you tell him or her no they will come up with a way to persuade you to still do whatever it was they wanted you to do in the first place. They are master manipulators.
3. They don’t like to see others succeed.
The narcissist doesn’t want anyone to succeed. He or she sees everything other people achieve as an attack. They are always trying to compete with those around them.
4. They are very attention seeking.
The narcissist is going to go out of his or her way to seek attention all the time. They want the world to revolve around them and truly think it does. They have to be the center of attention no matter the current situation.
Dealing with a narcissist can be draining. Using journals like “The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Journal“ can help you process your feelings and experiences, giving clarity and healing.
The narcissist is going to be much more into his or herself than most other people would be. As mentioned above, they literally think the world revolves around them. They think that they are on a much higher level than everyone else.
6. They are quick to anger.
The narcissist will be quick to become angry. If you disagree with him or her their true colors will most likely come out. Sure, they are charming and kind at first but when their mask comes off the terror comes out.
Engaging effectively with a narcissist often requires enhanced communication skills. Check out “Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life“, a book that offers strategies to communicate empathetically and assertively.
7. They cross all your boundaries.
The narcissist does not understand boundaries. He or she will cross yours without a second thought because he or she sees you as an extension of his or herself. They do not think of other people as other people most of the time.
A guide like “Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life“ can offer insights into maintaining your personal space and well-being.
Narcissists are not always extreme but when you come across one that has all of the things listed above present you should not continue contact. Sometimes cutting contact is the best idea as you should always opt for the means that will damage you the least. However, cutting ties with a narcissist will not be easy.