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Relationships can be difficult at time, and knowing how your partner truly feels is nearly impossible. However, if your partner is falling out of love, therapists claim that there is one major indicator.

While some of us are lucky enough to believe in our hearts that our partner could never stop loving us, other people know how things do sometimes change, and people leave the people they love, sometimes without a moments notice.

Elite Daily published a piece on this very subject, and spoke with Dr. Joshua Klapow, Ph.D. Clinical Psychologist and Host of the ‘Kurre and Klapow Show’ who said”Sometimes it’s difficult to tell if you are having a tough time in a relationship, if you are experiencing significant problems, if you really are questioning how well it is working versus actually falling out of love,” Dr. Joshua Klapow, Ph.D. Clinical Psychologist and Host of ‘The Kurre and Klapow Show,’ continuing, he explained, “Love can be lost and found. It can fade and come back, it can be ‘fixed’ but because love is a feeling, it is not a guarantee that love lost will return.”

Kaplow also had a pretty interesting, and seemingly on-point prediction of things to look out for with your partner, if you feel they may be pulling away. The behaviors to look out for are actually pretty simple, but not something we often think of,

“When it moves from ‘I don’t like what you are doing’ to ‘I don’t like you.’ They go from being emotionally connected to emotionally ‘neutral.’ They ask you to change the way you eat, talk, interact, spend time, look. They seem to schedule their life differently,” Kaplow explained. And continuing,

“Growing distant is a major relationship red flag.”

And while uncontrollable issues, such as having opposite schedules are one thing, more obvious signs are another. But the most important takeaway is to communicate how you feel.”Don’t assume that the distance can only be that they are falling out of love,” Dr. Klapow says. “But don’t assume that everything is fine. Remember that your partner’s personal issues, your own issues and the relationship itself all drive the emotional setting.”

He finished, by emphasizing how important it is understand your partner, to be open to how they feel, and to not get defensive about the way they are acting towards you. Check to see where they are at mentally, and express your interest in making the relationship last.

While people do definitely fall out of love, he believes it often happens due to ta lack of communication, which is key to making any relationship last for the longhaul.