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This world is full of different kinds of people and some of those kinds of people really suck. Just because someone is ‘highly educated’ doesn’t mean they have the right to bring you down and stomp all over you.

Personally, I prefer emotional intelligence over book smarts any day of the week. I’ve known many highly educated people who were completely unable to resonate with the emotions of others, and they were quite behind in many ways as a result. Emotional intelligence is much more important than most people tend to realize.

Now, for those who might not be aware emotional intelligence can be broken down as follows (Psych Central):

For most people, emotional intelligence (EQ) is more important than one’s intelligence (IQ) in attaining success in their lives and careers. As individuals, our success and the success of the profession today depend on our ability to read other people’s signals and react appropriately to them.

Therefore, each one of us must develop the mature emotional intelligence skills required to better understand, empathize and negotiate with other people — particularly as the economy has become more global. Otherwise, success will elude us in our lives and careers.

“Your EQ is the level of your ability to understand other people, what motivates them and how to work cooperatively with them,” says Howard Gardner, the influential Harvard theorist. Five major categories of emotional intelligence skills are recognized by researchers in this area.

The more capable we are to manage and identify our emotions as well as the emotions of others the stronger we become. Someone who is book smart but not emotionally intelligent won’t be able to calm someone who is angry or be able to comfort someone who is truly in pain and those two things are seemingly crucial in this world. Sure, some people carry both forms of intelligence but not everyone does. 

If you want to know whether you’re emotionally intelligent or not perhaps you should look for the signs below. If you’re doing all of these things or able to do them, you are likely emotionally intelligent. You’d be surprised how important this kind of thing is.

5 Signs You’re Emotionally Intelligent:

1. You’re always willing to hear others out.

You give great advice and are almost always willing to listen to the struggles of others. When you can help, you do help. However, either way, you’re a shoulder to lean on.

2. You try to always be honest.

You do your best, to be honest, and open with everyone. You don’t just lie for no reason or break others down. You always tell the truth.

3. You are not a fake version of yourself.

No matter who you’re around, you are authentic. You strive to be the trust for of yourself that you can be. You’re not interested in being fake.

4. You don’t bottle your emotions.

Instead of bottling your emotions you let them out. You do not refuse to feel them but instead, make sure you’re addressing things properly. You are able to face the negative in the best ways possible.

5. You feel lots of empathy for others.

When someone is going through something you can feel it. You want to help them get through it and you do what you can. You don’t just look the other way.