When it comes to actually living life versus just going through the motions, proper boundaries are more important than most stop to consider. If you’re struggling in life and feel as though the people around you are taking advantage of you, you’re lacking in this very serious area.
As we grow up boundaries are something we’re supposed to learn how to set properly but many of us do not have that luxury. A lot of us end up moving into adulthood all the while unable to keep others in check within the manners that we should. This for a number of reasons can create chaos in our lives and leave us feeling quite out of whack. Sure, it might seem like you’ve got life all figured out but if your boundaries are not present you’re lacking seriously in some of the most important areas.
When you don’t know how to set proper boundaries you end up doing more than you should for others and allowing them to walk all over you. You find yourself moving through life on autopilot and never really coming to terms with the things you need to come to terms with. It is essential to have personal boundaries in life. If we don’t have them we cannot build proper healthy relationships with anyone.
Dr. Tracy Hutchinson wrote as follows in regards to boundaries and how important they are to have:
Boundaries are basic guidelines that people create to establish how others are able to behave around them. For example, they may involve what behavior is okay and what is not and how to respond if someone passes those limits. Setting boundaries can ensure that relationships can be mutually respectful, appropriate, and caring. However, at some point in your life, I am sure you have felt your boundaries being violated. You may think or feel a person is “strange” because of the way they behave towards you. They may deny that they said or told you something and you question your sanity. It may be a stranger that is standing too close to you or touching you (physical boundary) or asking you very personal questions (emotional). Perhaps you have been a target of emotional abuse or bullying in school or the workplace (psychological). All are examples of boundary violations.
If you feel unsafe, unheard, invalidated, and disrespected your boundaries are being crossed all the while you perhaps not even being aware of what they are, to begin with, and that is not okay. Through getting to know yourself you can set real boundaries and begin to make differences within your own life. The more appropriate your boundaries are the more positive your self-concept will become.
If you want to learn how to set proper boundaries in life and are unsure of how to go about it please check out the video below. It will point you in the right direction and show you all you need to know. Sure, it’ll be hard at first but the benefits you’re going to gain overall are well worth it.