When it comes to narcissistic relationships things are tricky. Your narcissist will do everything he or she can do to try and keep you under his or her wing and in the end, if you try to truly leave they will pull out the worst moves possible.
While a lot of people think that leaving your narcissist is easy once you’ve made up your mind, it isn’t. The narcissist has tons of tactics that he or she will use to try and win you back over. These things play with our minds and really pull us through the wringer. I know, once you’re out others think it’s finally over but it’s not.
At the end of a narcissistic relationship, your narcissist is going to try and lash out at you to make you feel guilty. He or she is going to blame all of the bad things on you that happened in your relationship and gaslight you as best he or she can into thinking all of this was your fault and your fault alone. You will have to limit contact as best you can while still trying to pry your lives apart as if you’ve been together for a long time with someone you know how entangled your lives can get.
Your narcissist will do his or her best to pull the wool over your eyes and make you think that he or she is changing. You will feel like you might owe them another chance but you don’t. You do not have to let them back in and the moment you do, you will regret it. You have to remain strong and hold your own even when faced with someone you care about offering all you’ve ever wanted from them.
Leaving a narcissist is not easy and it takes time. Once you’ve managed to untangle your life from theirs and are finally able to cut contact, do-so. This is the only sure-fire way to keep them out of your life. The more contact you keep with them the more they will try to draw you back into their chaos. You don’t deserve to remain in that toxic situation, you deserve to heal and move on properly.
If you feel like you’re in danger or like your narcissist is planning something bad, don’t hesitate to reach out to others and contact the authorities. All too often situations like this become violent and that’s not something you need to be dealing with. Sure, it’s going to hurt and you’re not going to feel yourself for a while but moving on from this will benefit you in so many ways. You can find yourself again if you truly move on.