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While sometimes we find ourselves in nice, positive relationships, they won’t all be this way. Toxic individuals come with masks that are not always noticeable and so, painful relationships are often unavoidable but recognizing them is only half of the battle.’

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When you move on from a negative relationship and work your way through others trying to find the ‘best’ one, you might not realize that there are some pretty specific things you need to make sure are present. While everything might seem fine, sometimes we overlook some of the most important things. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship, but if you have all the following things present within yours, it is one of the best you could hope for.

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If your significant other does all the things listed below, you need to remind them of how important they are to you. Just because you fight sometimes or don’t agree on everything doesn’t mean you aren’t meant for one another. If someone truly loves you, they will turn your relationship into something amazing right from the start.

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13 Things Your ‘Best Partner’ Will Do:

1. They talk about a future with you.

They actually make plans for a future with you. They go over where the two of you will be a year from now and so forth. It’s like you are both headed in the same direction and content with it.

2. Their love for you is not conditional.

They don’t put conditions on their love. They love you for you. Sure, you aren’t perfect, but you are perfect for them.

3. They show you that they care.

They show you that they care, and they do nice things for you and are always willing to be there for you. In your worst moments, they are a light shining through.

4. They let you see their vulnerable side.

They show you all of the things that even they struggle with. Their vulnerable side is not hidden. They trust you to see them for who they truly are.

5. They communicate properly with you.

They are not afraid to talk about hard topics. They communicate with you about everything. If something is bothering them, they speak up.

6. They put forth the same efforts that you do.

They work to make things run smoothly in the same ways you do. You both take care of one another. No one is doing everything, and everyone is doing something. You are sharing the burdens, not forcing them on one another.

7. They pay attention to you.

They actually pay attention to you. They do not make you feel like you’re forcing them to spend time with you. They text, call, and come over because they want to.

8. They are actually committed to you.

They do not have eyes for others. They are committed to you. Someone that truly loves you will not cheat.

9. When arguing, they chose to resolve things maturely.

They do not act like children when it comes to resolving issues. If there is a problem, talking it through is crucial. They won’t be petty or make you feel small, they will sit down and get things situated.

10. They truly accept you.

They accept you for who you are. They don’t try to change you or make you out to be someone you are not. They love you for you.

11. They speak their mind and allow you to do the same.

They know how important honesty is in a relationship. They are honest with you, and you are honest with them. There are no lies or unspoken problems.

12. They listen to the words you say when you say them.

When you say something, they actually take in the words you are saying. They do not ignore you or let things fly in one ear and out the other. They are far more caring than most.

13. They are there for you when you need them.

They are always there for you when you need them. If you call them in the middle of the night, they will answer. They do not leave you hanging.

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