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Sometimes we find ourselves much more dependent on others than we want to be. While it might not seem like a big deal in the moment eventually your lack of independence will become quite prominent.

Independence is something that we all should have at least a decent amount of. Don’t get me wrong, you need company as well, but learning to be independent is important. You need to be able to function without someone holding your hand. Whether you are dependent on a romantic partner, a friend, or a family member you need to take them into consideration. It is not fair for someone else to have to fit your bill 24/7.

If you are stuck in a rut or just too lazy to get off your ass you need to come back to reality. Sure, you might like being able to do what you want and not have to worry about things but that doesn’t mean it’s right. Below I am going to go over some of the signs that indicate you need to get out there in the world and start taking care of yourself.

Some of these signs will be much more obvious than the others but you will know they are present regardless. You can be in someone’s life without making them your whole world or making yourself their only priority. We all need to be able to live our lives to the fullest.

6 Signs You Need To Stop Relying On Others and Get Off Your Ass:

1. You refuse to take responsibility for your life.

If you are not taking responsibility for your own life someone else will and they will use that to control you. If you never take charge you will simply be going through the motions. No one wants that, don’t do that to yourself.

2. You refuse to better yourself.

If you refuse to better yourself where else would you expect to end up? If you’re not going to do better and be better someone is going to end up having to take care of you and you’re lucky if you have someone willing to do that. Don’t put others in these kinds of situations.

3. You feel stuck and angry.

If you’re feeling angry and stuck chances are you’re in a rut. This is only something YOU can get yourself out of. If you expect someone to come in and pull you out of it you’re only going to end up disappointed.

4. You don’t make your own decisions.

If you’re not making your own decisions who is? That is the person you’re depending on too much. While sometimes we don’t know what to do we should still be having some kind of say in where we’re headed. You are no doormat and you need to find your voice and use it.

5. You never get things done without help.

If you don’t ever get things done without someone standing over you reminding you of what needs to happen you’re not going to get very far. You can’t expect someone to hold your hand through everything. Sometimes you’re on your own and you have to deal with it.

6. You’re always asking people for advice on EVERYTHING.

You don’t always need advice. Sometimes you have to take risks and go with your gut. Don’t waste all your time trying to do what other people think is right, do what you think is right.

Get off your ass and live your life. You can’t waste it letting others tell you how to live or holding them back from living their own. It just doesn’t work that way.