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Being a woman who knows what she wants, and who has high standards can end up causing her to be thought of as high-maintenance. In reality- being someone with high standards doesn’t make you high-maintenance, it just means you know your worth.

Being around a woman who knows her worth, and demands nothing less than what she deserves can shine a bright blinking light on everything you aren’t. It’s not that she’s high-maintenance, it’s just that you don’t want to step up to the plate and do what is necessary to keep a woman who believes in herself.

She is independent and at the end of the day, that scares you, because you know that if you don’t step up to the plate and do what’s necessary to keep her, you will lose her.

She is intimidating because her strength requires a different caliber of man. You are afraid because you don’t know if you are capable. And while it isn’t really that you aren’t capable, you are just lazy to put in the work. To you, she seems like nothing but work, when in reality, the only work she requires is the work you need to do on yourself to be a worthy counterpart.

You see, she refuses to accept that she deserves anything less than what she is worth. She knows who she is, and she’s done the work necessary to get to where she is. She puts forth effort in herself and those closest to her regularly, and because of that, she won’t just settle for anything. Because you have to be worth the effort too. And just because you aren’t, doesn’t mean she will start slacking on herself.

At the end of the day, she knows what she wants from this life. And while it sounds lovely to be in a relationship, she doesn’t want just any relationship. She’d rather be alone.

And while in the past, you may have gotten away with disrespecting other women, and trampling all over them, she will be damned if you are going to do the same to her. She isn’t going to disrespect you, or anyone else, but she sure as hell won’t accept disrespect from you.

You don’t get to pick and choose when you want to put forth an effort. She understands that everyone has good days and bad, but you don’t get to treat her like anything less than what she deserves just because you are having a bad day. She has bad days too, and she doesn’t use them to excuse piss poor behavior.

And while some women may accept mediocrity, she doesn’t. She has never wanted to be mediocre and she knows that the people she surrounds herself with are ultimately the biggest influence on her life and its trajectory. You can go be mediocre all you want, but you damn sure won’t be mediocre if you want to be in her life. She expects better for you and for herself, which may make you feel inadequate. However, she is not responsible for how you feel, only for how she feels.

If you choose to walk away, she will show you the door. Not everyone is going to be willing to put in the work that is required to be with her and she is okay with that. She will encourage you to do what’s best for you. But, if you do choose to walk away, trust in one thing: it isn’t that she is high maintenance, you just don’t want to put in the effort to keep her.