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Sometimes people treat us badly for seemingly no reason. Just because someone is being mean to you does not mean you’ve done something wrong, please remember that.

Don’t get me wrong, sometimes we mess up and make mistakes but if someone is treating you badly for no reason, that person does not deserve to be in your life nor do they have your best interest in mind. As hard as it may be to swallow, some people are just mean and you cannot change that. While you might want to make things right or help them work through their own issues, you are not able to fix everyone.

I know, the idea of cutting ties with someone who is already hurting whether they are willing to open up or not is hard for a lot of us but if this person is bringing you down and causing you pain as well, there is no need for you to continue to suffer. You matter too and your well-being is something you need to keep in mind. You’re not crazy and you shouldn’t be walking around on eggshells because someone else thinks that it is okay to constantly bring you down because they cannot come to terms with the things they’re going through or feeling inside. That is not fair to anyone involved.

Love is not toxic and should not be made out to be, toxic romantic situations like this or even platonic ones should not be made out to be something they are not, period. Do not let other people use you. Sure, the idea of being alone or leaving someone behind might sting, but you can get through this without that person before you.

You are stronger than you think and you deserve to keep company that will offer you the guidance and support you provide to others. If someone is only using you, you need to do what is right for yourself and move on from them as quickly as you can. They are not going to change because you want them to. They will only change when they themselves decide they want to and are ready, you cannot force this kind of thing and you should not try to.

You have to respect yourself and set proper boundaries moving forward if you want to be happy and surrounded by people who actually care. This world is full of people who will do their best to get in your circle only to hurt you and that is a sad reality we all need to face. Things can get better but they will only remain the same if you stay surrounded by those who only want to see you sink with them.