While a lot of people might think they are patient, chances are most of them are actually not patient at all. If you’re complaining and stressing the whole time, you’re not as patient as you think.
Being patient is more about the attitude you put forth while waiting and how you face things moving forth. You can’t sit around complaining and itching to jump forth and consider yourself as patient. Patience is being comfortable and secure in your waiting.
If you’re still getting upset or angry over the delay, you’re not patient. Just because you’re sitting still and letting things play out properly doesn’t mean you’re patient. Only those who are able to keep their emotions in check properly are actually patient.
That all having been said if you are truly patient you are someone who has a lot more figured out than the rest. You rely on yourself for your own happiness and are able to use your emotional intelligence to your advantage. You know that your emotions are something you are in charge of and you are mindful of the way you react to things moving through this life.
Rather than allowing negative thoughts control over your life, you feel them for a moment and then release them, this in an attempt to reduce their control or influence over you. Patience is something that when cultivated properly can seriously come in handy and if you’re capable of the things noted here you know that all too well. Really working to make patience prominent in your life will be one of the most progressive things you ever do.
In regards to patience and it’s importance Psychology Today wrote as follows:
Patience doesn’t mean passivity or resignation, but power. It’s an emotionally freeing practice of waiting, watching, and knowing when to act. I want to give patience a 21st-century makeover so you’ll appreciate its worth.
Patience has gotten a bad rap for the wrong reasons. To many people, when you say, “Have patience,” it feels unreasonable and inhibiting, like an unfair stalling of aspirations or some Victorian hang-up or hangover. Is this what you’re thinking?
Well, reconsider. I’m presenting patience as a form of compassion, a re-attuning to intuition, a way to emotionally redeem your center in a world filled with frustration.
To frustrate means to obstruct or make ineffectual. Frustration is a feeling of agitation and intolerance triggered when your needs aren’t met; it’s tied to an inability to delay gratification. At our own risk, we’ve become too used to immediate results. Emails zip across the globe in seconds. Parents text messages to their kids to come in for dinner instead of yelling from a front porch. You can get the temperature in Kuala Lumpur or the Malibu Beach surf report with a click of a mouse.
Despite the digital age’s marvels, it has propagated an emotional zeitgeist with a low tolerance for frustration—not just when you accidentally delete a computer file, but in terms of how you approach relationships and yourself. Without patience, you turn into your own worst taskmaster. You treat spouses and friends as disposable instead of devoting the necessary time to nurture love.
What is patience to you and do you agree with the things mentioned here? Patience is in many ways a very confusing thing but the more we work at it the easier having it becomes. A few years ago I had little to no patience but recently I’ve been really letting go in all the right ways and not allowing setbacks to get under my skin. Personally, I feel much better overall as a result.
Sources:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/emotional-freedom/201209/the-power-patience
https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/patience