While we might want to be with someone so bad that it hurts, that someone might not be the person we’re meant to be with. If he or she isn’t capable of loving you properly, things just aren’t going to work.
We in this life tend to outgrow people and connections more frequently than we tend to realize. We hold on for much longer than we should and as a result only end up holding ourselves back. We outgrow people who are not able to love us properly, people who refuse to see us for who we are, and people who wish to do us harm. If you’re feeling as though you’re not being appreciated chances are you’re growing and that connection is not.
The more you find yourself and come to terms with who you are in this world and in this life the easier it becomes for you to let go of these connections and people who are no longer able to give you what you need. Sure, there will be ups and downs with the people who are meant to be by our sides but those ups and downs will be different from this kind of disconnect. If someone is not meant to be with you, they will make that very clear with their actions.
When you find yourself putting all your efforts into a connection that is limited at best, you will also find that it’s a waste of time. As the days pass you will realize that you don’t need to keep waiting around or trying so hard for the people who refuse to love you properly or who aren’t aware of your worth. As long as you love yourself and know what you do and do not deserve, doing what’s best for you will come naturally.
The more you choose to better yourself and your life the less important the people who refuse to choose you will be in your mind. If they’re not scared to lose you and unwilling to put up a fight when times get hard, they don’t deserve you or the connection you thought you had with them. They will never be able to love you in the ways you need to be loved and that is something you need to make sure you remember.
If the person you’re with isn’t capable of making you feel safe, secure, loved, and appreciated then that person needs to kick rocks. You are worthy of so much and you will find your place in this world. If someone isn’t growing with you they’re growing away from you and that you need to keep in mind moving forward.
For a little more motivation please check out the video below. Life is too short to waste it on someone who refuses to care for you. You are the only person in charge of you, live the life you want to live. Things will work out in ways you might never have imagined.