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Back during the beginning of fall, in October of last year, I moved out on my own at the age of 29, for the first time in my life. I had been ‘on my own’ since I was 19; however, I had always lived with either my husband, or later, my boyfriend, and honestly, it was terrifying. But now, I don’t know if I can live with someone else ever again. 

And it seems as though I am not alone in that, as more and more people are taking to this mindset, and choosing to do it on their own. If you had told me this months ago, before I tried it for myself, I wouldn’t have believed it. But now, I am totally a loner. To back my argument, check out these reasons why. 

You begin to understand your own capabilities.

If you have never lived alone, it seems impossible. Because one person can’t do it all, right? Well, while it isn’t easy, you will realize in time that you are much more capable than you thought. And if you had a hard time asking for help in the past, you will learn to, and that is a good thing.

It tunes your decision-making skills. 

If you are used to being in a couple, you may not be used to making all the calls, but when you live alone, this is a must. It’s difficult to adjust to, but eventually, you may find that you become accustomed to this perk.

You face a lot of fears.

This was the most difficult for me. I am terrified of being mugged, or attacked, as I am a 5′ 4″ (1.63 m) woman, so living alone, in the city, was terrifying. Now, I walk through dark alleys with confidence and mace.

You begin to LOVE being alone.

Uhh, I get to walk around in my underwear, eating ice-cream for breakfast. Sorry, guys, but that’s the best part! I can do anything I want and no one else can say anything about it!

You can decorate or not decorate as much as you wish.

This was my favorite part, as I finally got to express myself. And express myself I did. For those of you who hate decorating, just leave it blank forget to clean up your mess, let your freak flag fly.

You get to have a good relationship with family and friends.

You get to focus on what matters most to you. And because of that you can realize that your friends and family are important and that you need to value those relationships.

If you are an introvert, you are going to love it!

I am an introvert, so I will speak for us all when I say it is like you are living your best life. No company that you don’t want to be around, means that you don’t have to stress about seeing people you are unfamiliar with.

You get to hog the bed. 

You can sleep like a star fish, and take all the covers. It’s a win-win. Or win?

No one destroys your belongings, or eats your leftovers.

I mean, do I even have to clarify? I don’t miss people eating my leftover pad thai one bit. 

You realize that you can do it all- and you can get through whatever life throws your way.

Being able to take care of yourself is the most freeing feeling ever. I used to worry I couldn’t pay rent, and all the bills, plus my groceries and for my pets. Well, guess what? I can!

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