We as human beings tend to put too much of our efforts into people who do not deserve them. Rather than focusing on ourselves, we grasp into connections that have already died out.
If you’re in a toxic relationship and doing your best to keep things flowing you are doing more than you should be. The people who refuse to care for us properly don’t deserve our time and the sooner we realize that the better. Being single isn’t as bad as people make it out to be and it’s a whole lot more comfortable than being stuck with someone who refuses to see your worth.
When you’re single you get to do whatever you want and you really grow into a better version of yourself through soul-searching. Instead of worrying about whether the person you’re with will treat you right, you treat yourself right day in and day out. While pretending that your relationship is fine and that things will get better might work for a while, eventually you’ll begin to see things as they truly are.
When the walls come crumbling down you need to be able to pick yourself up and make your way out the door before it’s too late. You don’t want to be stuck in a situation that is only causing you pain and stress. Sure, it will take time to get over the break up itself but you will be stronger for having gone through it.
If your partner refuses to see you for who you truly are and won’t give you the efforts you give him/her, stop waiting around for things to change. Make them change by freeing yourself and taking life into your own hands. If someone isn’t giving you the things you need, then you should be out ensuring you have those things regardless.
We as human beings for whatever reason tend to wait around for other people to get their sh!t together when in reality we should be the ones working on ourselves so that when that love we want comes into our lives, we will be ready. This toxic situation in the long-run won’t be anything more than a speck in your life and the more aware you are of that the more clear what you need to do will become.
Life is too short to waste time on someone who refuses to help you shine properly. Be true to yourself and spend some time on your own. The right person will find you when you’re finally ready. You deserve more than you are currently aware of and working to accept that will get you much further once all is said and done.
Of course, this isn’t going to be easy but it will be worth it. Stop holding back and waiting around, life isn’t going to stop because you feel stuck. Tomorrow should always be a better day than today. If you really want to grow, you need to be willing to do what you have to do to make that growth happen.