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I’ve noticed a disheartening trend on social media lately, that needs to be addressed. It seems like many people are not only embracing toxic relationships but firmly believe that true love is toxic.

If a relationship is meant for you, you won’t have to constantly be at war to have it. You won’t wake up each day doubting yourself, worried that the relationship won’t last another day. Instead, your partner will make you feel secure, valued, and loved.

If a relationship is meant for you, you won’t feel buried when you are in it. You won’t have to defend the relationship to everyone you love, assuring them it’s not what it seems. Instead, you will feel at peace with the relationship.

Real love isn’t crazy, impulsive, argumentative, and jealous. It isn’t obsessive, abusive, and rude. Real love involves two people who respect each other, value each other’s independence and nurture each other’s wellbeing.

Real love involves two people who know they aren’t perfect, know they are flawed, and accept each other for who they are.

I am not saying that real love doesn’t endure struggle. On the contrary, that is inevitable. But, real love involves two people who can step up to the plate as a team and continue to make it happen, despite everything else.

If a relationship is meant for you, you won’t be constantly at war with each other and yourself. You won’t feel like a fraud for being a part of it, and you won’t always be waiting for the other shoe to drop.

Real love allows you to relax. It allows you to build trust. And above all, it doesn’t tear you apart. You don’t have to chase down real love, and it won’t feel so difficult that you will consider giving up.

If a relationship is meant for you, you won’t have to question what it is. You won’t constantly ask yourself, “Is this toxic?” There will be no doubt in your mind that it’s real.

Real love doesn’t break your heart. It doesn’t break you down, and it doesn’t make you feel like a shadow of who you once were. Real love empowers you to grow into the best version of yourself and leaves you feeling not only whole but even better.

If you are asking yourself whether your relationship is toxic or not, unfortunately, it likely is. And if your relationship is taking more of you than you have to give, it’s not meant for you.

Real love only comes around once in a lifetime. Don’t waste your time on toxic love that will only tear you apart. Your time is valuable, don’t waste it on toxic love.