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When a man doesn’t pursue a woman, we often assume it’s because they don’t want to come on too strong, or that maybe they are playing hard to get. The truth of the matter is though, when a man truly wants you, he will pursue you.

You might be shaking your head at me saying this. Or even breathing the words, “No, you are wrong.” But I promise you, if a man wants you, he will not let anything stand in the way of that.

Men like to pursue a woman they like. It’s something they view as a challenge or a game they want to win, and to win, they know they need to put forth the effort. And if you find that a man isn’t calling you, texting you, or trying to take you out, it may be easier to assume that he is shy.

No matter how shy a man is, he is going to try to find a way to get you, if he wants you. It may be hard to accept, but if he isn’t trying to pursue you, he is not interested.

A man that isn’t interested will constantly say he is busy. He won’t go out of his way to spend time with you. And he won’t respond to your calls or texts for days. Eventually, he may even ghost you. And if he returns momentarily, only to ghost you again, I am sorry but he isn’t trying to be with you.

No matter how wonderful he may seem, if a man takes you on a few dates and then drops you, he isn’t worth the time of day. He isn’t worth you feeling like you aren’t enough. Because the fact of the matter is, the connection just isn’t meant to be. And the longer you waste your time begging him to show initiative, the more time you put off being with someone who does want to be with you.

No one deserves to have their feelings and emotions toyed with. No one deserves to be someone’s option, especially when you are making him a priority. Know your worth, and don’t waste your time and energy on a man that is playing with your heart. If you pull back, and he truly wants you, he will make that abundantly clear.

But don’t sacrifice your dignity or continue to allow someone to hurt you because you think he might want you. I promise you, if he is interested you will know it.