Narcissists are very toxic people and when we deal with them we should do so with caution. Sure, you might want to put them in their place but in doing so, you need to keep your own well-being in mind.
If you have in recent times come to the realization that there was or is a narcissist in your close circle, disarming them is important. Through doing this you can work to cut ties with them properly. However, disarming a narcissist is nowhere near easy.
To disarm your narcissist you must first understand what a narcissist is and how this specific narcissist is influencing you and working to hold power within your life. The more you understand the better you can fight him or her.
Below I am going to go over some things you need to do to get your life back. While not all of these things will be as simple as they sound, they are all important. In doing these things, you’re setting the mood for change.
5 Things You Need To Do To Disarm Your Narcissist And Get Your Life Back:
1. Stop letting him/her cross your boundaries.
This person does not deserve to hold power over you. Your boundaries should be set and not crossed, period. If this person cared about you, they would not be trying to cross them in the first place, demand respect and do not budge.
2. When he/she lashes out, do not engage.
When this person lashes out and tries to get a rise out of you, do not give in. Remain calm and simply walk away if you need to. The more you engage with them the worse they will become, that much you should already know.
3. Accept that you cannot change or fix this person.
Narcissists cannot be changed and they cannot be fixed. They do not see anything wrong with the way they treat other people. They are not going to see things the way that you do.
4. Stop apologizing for things you never did or cannot change.
You should never apologize for something you did not do and you damn sure shouldn’t be trying to fix things that cannot be changed. You are no punching bag and should not be treated as if you were. This person should not be guilt-tripping you into doing things you do not want to do.
5. Limit your exposure to this person and if possible, completely cut ties.
If you can cut ties with this person, do it. However, if you cannot limit your exposure will make a huge difference in how you feel overall. This is your life and you get to choose who is in it and who is not.
For more insight on this topic check out the video below. It covers some other means of working through this kind of experience. Narcissists do not deserve our time or effort, keep that in mind moving forth.