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The art of attraction can seem complex and perhaps even a bit daunting. However, much like any art, if you have a bit of practice and some sound knowledge, you can get much further.

A lot of times, when we think of attraction, we tend to believe we have to fit a stereotype. We believe we must look a certain way. Speak a certain way. Carry ourselves a certain way. While there is a system of sorts, the fact of the matter is, you don’t have to be anything you are not to get the guy.

So what exactly is the trick? Well, there’s no a trick, but there are most certainly some tips. Here are a few that work the best.

Touch Yourself (But not like that, you perv.)

While you are talking to him, touch your hair and your face. You can even slightly and subtly graze parts of your body that aren’t overtly sexual. Think about your shoulder if you are wearing a strappy shirt or dress. This works, because it sends a stark message: “Look, I am touching myself, but I’d prefer YOU touch me.” Just make sure you don’t appear nervous as you do this.

Be Intentional With Your Expressions

When you are looking at him, make eye contact. Make sure you hold his gaze, flutter your eyelashes and keep your eyes open wide. Research has shown that maintaining positive eye contact helps immensely. Also, don’t be afraid to smile. People tend to focus on how you make them feel more than what you say. If you have a resting b*tch face, it isn’t likely that your vibe is going to be warm and friendly. SO SMILE!

Align Your Body Language

If your body language is closed off, you are sending a message to them and not the right one, Make sure you use mirroring – because mirroring shows that you are similar. It makes people comfortable. Don’t cross your arms.

Subtly Touch Them

If you can, without being obvious, subtly brush your hand across their arm. If you can touch them subtly, you are sending them the message that you crave touching them-which will immediately get them interested.

Don’t Be Afraid to Subtly Flirt

When you are talking, use flirty gestures. Things like tilting your head, flipping your hair, and smelling/looking nice can all work in your favor.

Show Up & Show Out

You don’t have to be the epitome of beauty standards to be attractive. Wear something that suits your form. Use the color red, as it is a color often associated with passion and beauty. Make sure you have your hygiene in order-bathe, have well-trimmed nails, and subtly amplify your natural beauty with a bit of makeup. Bonus points if your outfit shows off your neck, which is a major turn-on.

Be Authentic

Allow your true personality to shine. If you are humorous, tell some jokes. If you are intelligent, woo him with your knowledge. If there is something you are passionate about – discuss it. When you are yourself, you are your most confident and confidence is SEXY!