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We have all been guilty of seeking validation at one point or another, and this likely ties into the societal pressure placed on women to please others. We doubt ourselves because we are hard-wired to try to please everyone around us, but this same societal conditioning is the very thing that will destroy our mental health and well-being.

Throughout history, women have been pressured to seek out validation, most especially from men. At one point in time, our survival depended upon it, because we had very few rights. Fast-forward to now, and while times have changed, it is still hard-wired in our DNA to seek validation from others. Of course, there are other factors at play as well. Regardless of the reasons, if you are ready to take your power back, then I have 6 tips to share with you.

6 ways to become a woman who does not seek validation from others.

1. Get to know yourself.

In order to believe in yourself, you have to know yourself. I don’t mean ‘know yourself’ in the vague sense of the word, I mean you need to really know yourself. You need to sit down with yourself and be honest about who you are, what you believe in, what you are capable of, what your weaknesses are, what your flaws are, and what makes you beautiful.

2. Understand your worth.

There are many of us that do not get taught what our value is. Instead, we are taught that we should be the prettiest girl in the room, the quietest, and the people pleaser. Let go of these notions and understand that this is your life and you are worthy of everything you desire and more.

3. Understand what you have accomplished and what you are capable of.

Look back at what you have accomplished. Think of times in which you stepped up and showed out. For example, remember that time that you got that promotion because you worked for it? Or, do you remember that time you could have given up when things were hard, but you kept going instead? Count those wins!

4. Practice self-care.

You cannot pour from an empty cup. If you are always doing for everyone else and letting your needs fall to the back burner, you do not value yourself. Make a point of showing YOU that you value YOU.

5. Practice setting boundaries.

Boundaries are everything. At the end of the day, when you seek validation from others, you are violating your own boundaries and honestly the boundaries of others. Why? It’s not ANYONE’S responsibility to validate you.

6. Surround yourself with the right people.

There is an old saying that goes something along the lines of you are who you surround yourself with, and well, that couldn’t be more true. So, if you want to be strong and confident, then you need to surround yourself with people who are strong and confident and who value you.