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If you have ever encountered a dangerous narcissist, then you know exactly how much harm they can cause in just a short amount of time. If you haven’t then you should consider yourself lucky.

While narcissist has become quite the buzzword, used to name pretty much anyone that is disliked, narcissism is a very real personality disorder. Much like sociopathy (anti-social personality disorder) narcissistic personality disorder is a disorder characterized by a lack of empathy. In addition to a lack of empathy, narcissists are individuals who are self-obsessed almost to the point of delusion.

Their relationships are characterized by dysfunctional patterns and pervasive @buse. What that being said, you have to wonder, how do they so skillfully work to manipulate others into believing they are well-intentioned enough to allow them into their lives? To answer this, I am going to break it down into 6 different things narcissists do to convince others of their ‘good intentions.’ Be wary of people like this.

1. They play the victim.

Upon meeting a narcissist, you would likely believe that they truly are the victim of many people. They might tell you that all of their ex-partners were hurtful and psychotic when, in reality, they are. They might tell you that they’ve never had a real friend when in reality they have, they just took advantage of them. No matter what the situation, they know how to play the victim. Pay attention to this.

2. They pretend to be someone they are not.

Narcissists like to wear a mask or a facade of who they want the world to believe they are. Recently, I watched a documentary about a girl named Anna Sorokin, who made all of New York’s elite believe she was an heiress. She put herself in this image while scamming banks and friends out of hundreds of thousands of dollars. When everyone figured out who she was, it was too late. Later, she was diagnosed by experts as a textbook narcissist.

3. They choose the people they surround themselves with carefully.

Narcissists like to maintain the image they create for themselves. To do this, they surround themselves with people they want to be perceived like. Not only that, but the people they get closest to are chosen carefully to see if the person is a likely candidate to be taken advantage of. Oftentimes, they pray on empaths and people who are emotionally vulnerable.

4. They guilt-trip.

Another tactic used by the narcissist when they want people to believe they have the best intentions is to guilt-trip. If you ever question their integrity, they will act completely offended. “How dare you say such a thing about me? I am the victim! I need you to be on my side,” is the like of what they will say to convince you.

5. They distort reality.

Narcissists are magicians of reality. They have an impeccable talent for leaving things out, and painting reality in such a way that you would have to believe they are the good guys. However, upon further examination, all those lies become exposed.

6. They love bombs.

Narcissists are known for love-bombing. Upon first meeting, they will tell you everything you want to hear, and tell you how amazing of a person you are. Within moments of meeting you, they may swear you are the best friend they ever had or their soulmate. They do this to convince you they are good.