While a lot of people do not think about this often, it is something that weighs heavily on my mind. In this day and age, people seem to think of marriage as a one-way ticket to giving up on their dreams, and well, that’s not what it is at all.
Don’t get me wrong, if you don’t want to get married, and you think things like that are not for you then that’s perfectly fine but why on Earth do people think that by getting into a serious committed relationship and making that leap that they are giving up their sense of freedom? If you think settling down in this sense is giving up on your dreams and closing yourself off from who you could be, you’re seeing the wrong kinds of people. Falling in love and getting married shouldn’t be something seen as the end of your life, it’s just one part of the whole picture.
If you’re marrying someone or seriously committed to someone who is seemingly making you give up the things you want most in life, you shouldn’t be with that person. I know, we often talk about wanting to go do things with our partners that we don’t exactly get to go do because life can be hard, and it throws us lots of curveballs but if you’re with the right person you can make the life you share into something that you both feel content within. If you’re both on the same page you will be helping each other achieve all that you want together and essentially following one another around the world if traveling is your thing.
All too often people end their relationships early because they don’t want to regret not having done things differently in the future only to find that they are regretting that ending. Sure, some relationships end on mutual terms and that’s fine but overall, refusing to settle down romantically and being excited as you move forth don’t have to go hand in hand. You can be in love and still have fun.
However, if you truly don’t want a relationship then by all means live your best single life. I guess what I am getting at with this is that it shouldn’t be so easy to move on from people, and we should be more willing to grow with the people we care about rather than thinking they are holding us back from the things we really want to do. For instance, if you want to see the world why not see it with the person who cares the most about you?
I know, good relationships are not something that you find every day, but I also feel like a lot of people are giving up on special people out of fear and that is something that really needs to stop. We all deserve to be content and loved while chasing our goals. If we fall for the people who truly love us, we won’t ever have to question whether or not we are free to chase the things we feel we need in life.