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Dealing with people who are always overly negative or taking advantage of you can be extremely draining. The more time we spend with people who are using us, the more mentally and emotionally exhausted we will become.

Those who bring us down are toxic in a number of ways. Because we soak up all of their negativity, we allow them to eat away at our life force/personal energies. A lot of psychiatrists suggest cutting ties with people who do us no good and if that isn’t possible, at least reducing contact. Not everyone in our lives deserves a spot beside us and that is something we as human beings need to come to terms with.

People who bring you down either do not realize they are doing so or have no regard for your emotions one way or another. These people frustrate us to no end and really eat away at our insides in ways that we sometimes find hard to explain. Setting healthy boundaries with these kinds of people is the first step in taking back control over your own personal energies.

In regards to cutting unhealthy bonds through visualization Dr. Orloff wrote as follows for Psychology Today:

In a calm state, picture cords of light connecting both of you. Inwardly say, “Thank you,” for what you’ve learned from the relationship, even if the lessons were hard. Then firmly assert, “It’s time to completely break our bonds.” Next, visualize taking a pair of scissors and cutting each bond completely so you’re free of any mutual energetic ties. This will help you release the relationship, and also remove lingering energy that you feel from the person.

Have honorable closure. This technique lets you release a relationship, particularly if you keep thinking about the person or sense that they’re thinking about you. Go out in nature and find a large stick. Look at the stick and declare, “This relationship is over.” Then break the stick in half, leave the pieces on the ground, walk away, and never look back. This finalizes the ceremony of closure.

Learning to set healthy boundaries, or if necessary complete breaks, with those who drain you, will protect your sensitivities and enhance your well-being.

In this world there are lots of different kinds of toxic people and being able to spot those who are energy vampires or even narcissists is crucial. Moving forward without looking back might not be as easy as you want it to be but a lot of the time it is the best option. Mental exhaustion is a state in which we do not want to be and reducing the unnecessary contact we have with those who as noted above are doing nothing but making us feel terrible is one of the best possible ways to combat it.

For more information on how to move forward once you’ve cut these people out of your life please feel free to check out the video below. There is nothing wrong with doing what you need to do in order to better yourself. You deserve to live a life full of happiness and knowing your limits is important.