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The difference between true love and a love that is not genuine is something that shows. Not just on the surface of the relationship, but also in how we behave throughout the experience.

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The funny thing about love, that most people tend to overlook, is that love isn’t just a feeling. Love is physical. Not in the sexual sense, but on a chemical level. When women fall in love, our bodies’ product certain neurotransmitters that change our behavior in a literal sense. Unfortunately, it is so easy to mistake lust for genuine love, because lust also impacts us on a physiological level. However, there are some major differences in how this impacts our behavior.

If you are a woman trying to understand if your love is authentic or a man trying to figure out if she really loves you, check out the following signs.

1. She begins to become more nurturing.

A woman who is falling in love will take on a nurturing demeanor towards her partner. She may check in on you, go out of her way to take care of you when you are sick, or ask questions to make sure you are okay. In many ways, she will show you affection on a different level. For those interested in exploring this nurturing aspect further, “The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts” by Gary Chapman is a great resource.

2. She acts slightly shy.

Another sign of a woman who is falling in love is shyness. While she may be outgoing and confident with everyone else, she may struggle to hold herself together around you. Additionally, you may notice that she has a hard time making eye contact.

3. She goes out of her way to do kind and generous things for you.

When a woman is in love, she will go out of her way to be good to you. If she notices you need some socks, she may go buy you some. She will pay attention to your needs and make sure they are attended to.

4. She prioritizes you.

A woman in love will make her partner a priority. She will make time for you, even if she doesn’t have much. When you reach out to her, she will be there as long as she can. Understanding the dynamics of prioritizing in relationships can be further explored in “Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find – and Keep – Love” by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller.

5. She listens to you.

If a woman is in love, she will listen to you. She will pay attention to what you say and actively engage with you in return.

6. She remembers the little things.

If she is in love, she will pay attention to the little things. She will remember your favorite color, your favorite meal, your favorite show and the story you told her about your favorite memory.

7. She accepts your flaws.

Everyone has flaws. In some cases, our flaws can be too much for others, while being perfectly acceptable for another. We simply have to find the one who helps bring out the best in us.

8. She tries to impress you.

If she goes out of her way to impress you, then rest assured that she cares. She might try to show off a skill that she has, or go out of her way to take you somewhere that she loves.

9. She considers you in her future.

If she mentions you in future plans, she loves you. If she is already adding you as a plus one for a wedding next fall, I assure you, you are in. For those seeking to understand the future aspect of love, “All About Love: New Visions” by bell hooks offers a compelling perspective.