If you were asked what men look for in a partner, how would you respond? While most might jump to things like big boobs, a perfect body, the perfect hair, or a big booty- it actually goes much deeper than that.
The reason so many men “pull away” from women
is because women don’t understand this naughty secret
about men. . .
man embracing and going to kiss sensual woman in bed in the morning
While our society tends to make all men appear shallow, not all men are just looking for good looks. On the contrary, science even shows that when it comes to men’s preferences, there is so much more to it than looks. Below, I will cover 8 things men look for in a partner according to science.
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1. Someone who makes them feel like a hero.
There is a thing called the ‘hero complex’ which asserts that men have the desire to protect the people they love and to feel needed. This is a biological need that men have. So, if you really want to win him over, don’t be afraid to let down your guard and ask him to help you in some way. Or, be vulnerable with him.
“Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl―A Woman’s Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship” by Sherry Argov offers an empowering perspective on maintaining independence and confidence in relationships, qualities that resonate deeply with men.
2. Natural-looking beauty.
In a study conducted by Zoosk, out of 1,2000 women who wore makeup in their profile picture, only 139 were likely to be messaged by a man. Additionally, men seemed to be most eager about a simple look of just lipstick. Darker makeup looks were far less likely to get asked out.
3. Kindness.
Men appreciate kindness too. According to a study carried out by the Society for Personality and Social Psychology, researchers discovered that the more responsive to a man’s needs a woman was, the more likely she was to be attractive in his eyes. Moreover, kindness and dependability, as highlighted in your article, are foundational to any lasting relationship. Books like “The 5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman can offer insights into expressing care and understanding in ways that deeply resonate with your partner, further cementing the bond between you two.
4. Health.
Our health shows through our appearance and can be seen in how we act, how we look and how we carry ourselves. Men tend to be more attracted to women who can take care of themselves and who carry themselves accordingly.
5. Emotional intelligence.
Men are far more likely to go for a woman who is emotionally intelligent. Emotionally intelligent women not only understand their emotions, but are also able to fully manage them and understand themselves and others.
“Emotional Intelligence 2.0” by Travis Bradberry & Jean Greaves is a great resource for enhancing emotional intelligence, a trait highly valued in relationships.
6. Dependability.
Researchers from the University of Iowa found that men tend to lean toward women who have dependable character. This makes sense because many men in our current generation grew up with women as their strong influencers. This obviously leads them to want someone they can share themselves with and depend on.
7. Honesty.
In another study that looked at the effect of personality on perceptions, they found that men tended to value women who were described as honest. Of course, this makes sense. Because honesty is a sign of loyalty. Honesty and the ability to share laughter also play crucial roles in the dynamics of attraction and relationship sustainability. For individuals looking to cultivate a space of trust and joy in their relationships, “Daring Greatly” by Brené Brown offers profound insights into the power of vulnerability and how it can foster deeper connections.
8. Someone who laughs at his jokes.
Men love to be noticed, and they love making others laugh. Have you ever heard the phrase ‘dad joke?’ It isn’t a coincidence that men tend to have cheesy humor on deck to use at any time. When women laugh at their man’s joke, it makes him feel special and seen.
Okay, that’s FANTASTIC news, right? But a few questions still stand…
“Why did he start sending those warning cues in the first place?
What went wrong in the relationship?
And how can you “wake him back up” to you as the woman of his dreams and make your connection boil 1000x hotter than the day you met?
In this video presentation I put together for you [link], I show you an example of a terrible intimacy mistake 90% of women make without even knowing it that turns men off and shoves them far, far away, no matter how much they crave staying close to you…
And EXACTLY what to do when a man pulls away to turn things around and make him worship you the way you’ve dreamed of since you were a little girl.