Being a new mom is both an exciting experience and a daunting one. You want what is best for your child, but because you are new to everything, there is so much to learn.
Everyone has an opinion, and it can be mind-boggling to know the right route to take. Thankfully, that is where good advice from real-life moms can come in handy. While there are millions of things you likely need to know, there are a few things that stand above the rest as far as quality advice goes.
Here are 8 things every new mom needs to know about motherhood.
1. Bonding with your baby can take time.
We have all heard someone talk about how they immediately fell in love with their baby and immediately bonded with them. Yes, this does happen, but when it comes down to it, it can take time to bond with your baby. Do not beat yourself up – give it time.
2. Things may not go as planned.
We all have grand plans about parenthood and what having a new baby will be like. Just keep in mind that those plans and expectations will likely end up falling through or being different than you imagined, and that is okay too.
3. Breastfeeding isn’t all sunshine and rainbows.
While breastfeeding is the best option, that does not make it easy. If you simply cannot breastfeed or if you are struggling, go easy on yourself. Take your doctor’s advice and figure out what works best for you.
4. It’s okay to ask for help.
While you may read every baby book known to man, and have a pretty good idea of what parenting is like, the reality is different than you would imagine. When it comes down to it- motherhood can be pretty exhausting. So, don’t be afraid to ask for help.
5. Give yourself some time.
You will not bounce back to your old self overnight. It will take time. Give yourself about six months for your hormones to adjust.
6. Some babies just don’t sleep well.
Hearing about your friend’s babies and how well they slept as you clutch your fifteenth cup of coffee can be very disheartening. However, before you get too upset, remember that babies learn to sleep through the night as a part of their development. It can take time for them to get there because every baby is different. Check with your pediatrician to ease your mind and get to the bottom of what could cause it (aside from development) and give it time.
7. Your baby will cry for no reason at times.
Sometimes, babies cry. While there is usually a reason, there isn’t always. If you’ve checked all other avenues, they might just need comfort.
8. Stop comparing.
Stop comparing yourself to other moms, to your partner, and your mom. Just do the best that you can and let go of the need to be perfect.