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In this time period, for some reason, a lot of people seem to be mixing a lot of things up for love. Love isn’t lust or infatuation and yet, many people believe it is.

If you think you’re in love, but you’re not sure, looking for the signs might benefit you greatly. Infatuation is a lot like love but more-so shortlived. Rather than a lasting passionate encounter, situations with infatuation are more-so about admiration on the fading side of things.

Below you will find a list of signs that indicate you’re infatuated rather than actually in love. These signs might feel like love, but they aren’t love. The sooner you realize that, the easier it will be for you to work things out properly.

8 Signs You’re Infatuated, Not In Love:

1. You feel like this person is literally perfect.

When you’re infatuated with someone, you won’t see them as being able to do anything wrong. You will place them on a pedestal and that is where they will stay, at least for a while. You just don’t see things as they are and rather than accepting this person’s flaws, you don’t even see them.

To further understand the dynamics of infatuation, Dorothy Tennov’s “Love and Limerence provides an in-depth analysis of the state of being infatuated, often termed as ‘limerence.’ This book is a valuable resource for readers who want to explore the psychological aspects of intense romantic attraction.

2. You’re no longer being yourself.

When you’re infatuated, you’re more-so worried about getting close to this person than showing them who you are as a person. You will try to turn yourself into whomever you think they want you to be. This is not healthy and will only end badly once all is said and done.

3. You don’t question things this person says or does.

When you’re infatuated, you’re much more likely to ignore red flags with certain people. While he or she might be doing shady things, you’re not paying attention to that part at all. You’re still head over heels and ready to dive into a ‘connection.’

Understanding your attachment style can be transformative, especially when it comes to distinguishing infatuation from love. Attached” by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller is a groundbreaking book that offers deep insights into how attachment styles play a crucial role in our romantic relationships, helping readers navigate their feelings more effectively.

4. You want to be in control of the person you’re with/interested in.

When you’re infatuated, you’re much more jealous and volatile than you would be otherwise. You want to be in control of this person and you want them to basically belong to you. Rather than being a team, you want complete control.

5. You’re very insecure in your connection with this person.

While you might be in a relationship right now, you feel like this person could break your heart at any moment. There are a lot of insecure emotions about the whole ordeal, and you’re on edge more often than not. Things are not comfortable, that’s for sure.

6. You don’t bother to look at things from a logical stance.

When you’re infatuated, you tend to look at things from the stance you want to versus one of logic. While it might not make sense for you two to be together, you’re going to make it happen no matter what. This is where things tend to get a bit weird.

As you explore the overwhelming feelings of infatuation, In the Meantime: Finding Yourself and the Love You Want delves into understanding the inner self, which is crucial when differentiating between love and infatuation. It’s an essential read for anyone looking to discover more about their emotional responses and the journey towards true love.

7. The feelings you have are overwhelming in every sense of the word.

When you’re infatuated, you tend to be more-so overwhelmed with emotions. You think about this person a lot and you’re unable to shake the butterflies in your tummy. Until you get what you want, you’re going to feel this way and you’re well aware.

8. Your world revolves around this person.

When we are infatuated with someone our world begins to revolve around them. You don’t think of anyone else and all you do is make plans that have to do with this person. You’re properly obsessed, there is no denying that.