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In the beginning stages of a relationship, it can be hard to determine where things are going. As a group, humans are becoming increasingly cautious about who they let get close to them, and oftentimes, men, more so than women tend to place walls up to guard themselves against getting too vulnerable too quickly.


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Because of that, a man may not always say that he loves you, especially on a near-constant basis. I don’t care who you are, for the most part, women are a bit more emotionally attuned than men. I am not sure if that is more so based on genetics or the fact that men aren’t always allowed to embrace their emotional states as they grow up, due to generational defects in raising. Regardless though, if you are in a relationship, and your partner shows their love more than they say it, I would argue that is likely better than someone who just says they love you but never shows it. Put simply, actions speak volumes over words.

With all of that being said, here are 8 signs he loves you, even if he doesn’t say it.

1. He checks on you.

He always makes a point of calling or texting to check and see how you are, when you are apart. If you go on a trip without him, he doesn’t get jealous or upset, he simply wants to make sure you are okay. Even on days when he is going to see you quite a bit, he makes sure you are okay and goes out of his way to initiate contact.

2. He does what he says he will.

When he tells you he is going to do something, he does it. He doesn’t beat around the bush or try to make excuses to get out of it, his word is his word.

3. He discusses his future with you in it.

When he discusses the future, he includes you. He may ask you to go to weddings or events in advance, or discuss trips you will make together. You get bonus points if he talks about getting a home or having a life together in the future.

For couples starting to plan their life together, “The 5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman is a great tool to understand and express your affection effectively.

4. He goes out of his way to help you.

If you need help, he is there. Whether it’s to change a tire or to grab that bottle of peanut butter off the shelf that you cannot reach. He always is happy to help you do whatever it is that you need.

5. He listens to the little things.

When you talk to him, he listens. Not only does he listen, but later on he brings up small things you have said before. Or, he buys you little thoughtful gifts that are based on small conversations that you have shared before.

Thoughtful gifting can be enhanced with something like “Knock Knock What I Love about You Fill in the Love Book Fill-in-the-Blank Gift Journal,” a sweet and personalized way to show affection.

6. He gives you his undivided attention.

When you need his attention, you’ve got it. He doesn’t stare at his phone or look off and act uninterested, he pays attention.

7. He sticks up for you.

When someone else is treating you unfairly or in a hurtful way, he stands up for you. He doesn’t let anyone come at you in the wrong way. And he does not hesitate to put someone in their place if need be.

8. He is good to your friends and family.

Pay attention to how a man treats your friends and your family. If he goes out of his way to be kind and respectful to them, it says a lot about who he is as a person. Conversely, if he treats them with disrespect, ditch him.

Strengthening bonds can be fun with “The Ultimate Game for Couples” which encourages deeper conversations and laughter for friends and family.