As a parent, I want nothing more than to raise the best humans I possibly can. A major part of this is instilling the values that I have into my child so that they can grow up happy and successful.
A good work ethic is priceless in this world. Nobody wants to raise a lazy human being, but the thing is- if you don’t make it your business to instill the value of hard work into your child, the world likely won’t either. If you take one look around, it’s quite obvious that not everyone knows the value of a good work ethic. With a good work ethic, your child can reach for their biggest goals, and accomplish their dreams.
Of course, keep in mind that much like anything else in life, we need balance. So, there is a time to be hardworking and a time to take a break and enjoy yourself. With that said, here are 7 things you can do to raise a hardworking human.
1. Model good habits.
Your kids are going to absorb everything they see you do. Yes, you want to teach them the value of a good work ethic, but doing so is going to go far beyond just telling them to work hard. If you want to raise a hardworking human, the best thing to do is model those good habits. Let them see you working through obstacles. Let them see you following through on your word. And let them see you putting in the effort.
2. Focus on effort.
Rather than focusing on talent, focus on effort. When you notice your child working for something they want, make sure that they know that you are proud of their efforts. When they pass their test, instead of saying, “Wow, you are so smart!” say, “You studied so hard and your efforts paid off- I am so proud of you!”
3. Embrace mistakes.
When your child makes a mistake, do not make it out like it’s the end of the world. Mistakes are a part of the process and if you act like they are the end of the world- your child is going to be terrified of even trying. Help them to see that mistakes are a part of the journey and use them as tools.
4. Avoid saying “because I said so.”
When your child asks why don’t say because I said so. Instead, explain why. It might seem like it’s a useless endeavor, but when you explain why, you are helping them to truly understand.
5. Understand your child’s strengths and weaknesses.
Your child’s interests and temperament are going to discern where their strengths and weaknesses are. So, instead of pushing your interests onto them, help them to embrace their own.
6. Help effectively.
It’s okay to help, just make sure that you don’t jump in and do everything for them. It might be tempting to do so- but when you do, you are robbing them of valuable learning opportunities. Instead, help by coaching them, and make sure that you aren’t just doing it for them.
7. Show them how to effectively set goals.
Setting goals is a powerful motivator. When teaching your child about setting goals, make sure that they understand that the pathway to reaching those goals is one tiny step at a time. If you try to put too much on them, they will only end up disappointed.