When things are going well with a new romantic influence in our lives, we often jump right into the dating pool. However, it is pertinent that we take a few things into consideration first.
Romantic relationships often form without us taking more than our emotions into perspective. And then eventually as all impulsive endeavors do, they end. And sadly, they end in heartbreak, or even worse. When it comes to matters of the heart, we like to have romantic thoughts of rainbows and gumdrops, but the truth is people can be heartless, they can be dangerous, and they can ruin our lives.
While we went to believe that the other person is always to blame, that isn’t true either. There are things we need to avoid doing that will ruin the relationship. So before you jump in, you need to think about the following first.
Are you truly ready?
Relationships require that we think about someone other than yourself. If you don’t have time to invest in someone or are investing the majority of your time in other pursuits, you aren’t ready for a relationship.
What can you take from my past relationship and apply to this one?
In order to make a relationship work that is new, you need to meditate on the things that affected your past relationship and move forward to not repeat them. Otherwise, you will be destined to repeat the same mistakes again and again.
What do you want?
Before you start dating this person- consider who they are and what they have to offer. Do you share common values? Do they want the same things as you? If not, proceed with caution.
Will their schedules conflict with yours?
If you have conflicting schedules, to the extent of it affecting how much time you are able to invest in one another, it may cause issues. And this definitely needs to be considered.
Where do they stand in regards to the things you believe in?
Do you have similar belief systems? If not, when these subjects come up, and they will, how will you handle it?
Their criminal and mental record.
While we want to disregard people’s past and think the best of them, it’s better not to in many cases. If their past is too bad, you can’t overlook it.
Think about how they treat other people.
The way a person treats their mother, the waitress at the restaurant and their next-door neighbor truly matter. If they have tendencies to be cruel to others, it is almost certain that they will eventually treat you the same.