When it comes to dating in this day and age, there is a lot of manipulation going in. Far too often we find ourselves with people who want to control us or who want to change us.

If you ever notice that your partner is doing the following things you need to consider whether this is the relationship for you. You deserve someone in your life who isn’t going to beat your self-worth down or do his or her best to make you do things you clearly don’t want to do. Just because you’re in love with someone, and they say they love you doesn’t mean they actually do, there are tons of people in this world who love to play with the emotions of others, be aware.

7 Ways Your Lover Is Trying To Manipulate Your Emotions:

1. They are always pushing your buttons to get a rise out of you.

You find that more often than not your partner tries to make you upset or angry. This is his or her way of tricking you into giving in to what he or she wants. You are more willing to go do what he or she wants when you just want to get it over with and for him or her to stop talking about it.

2. They say things to tear you down.

Rather than saying nice things and building you up your partner is always trying to tear you down. He or she says things about your insecurities and is always making you feel bad. It’s like he or she doesn’t want you to be happy in your own skin.

3. Their actions never truly match up with their words.

Instead of doing the things he or she says they will do, your partner is always saying one thing and doing another. You find that more often than not he or she doesn’t follow through properly. You have to stay on him/her to get anything done.

4. Your partner tries to isolate you.

You find that your partner is always trying to cut you off from the people who care the most about you. This is so that he or she can gain more control. By limiting your engagement with these people he or she is keeping them at a distance.

5. They’re always playing the victim.

When something happens your partner always acts as if you’re the one hurting them. Instead of owning up to the things they’ve done they make you out to be the bad person even when you’re not. This is their way of gaining the upperhand and making you feel bad for them.

6. They act as if every issue that comes up is your fault even when it’s not.

Rather than working through problems they just make everything out to be your fault. They don’t want to come to any kind of agreement because they don’t want you to feel as though you’re able to make them compromise. They are very ‘it’s my way or the highway’ and if you upset them you’ll never hear the end of it.

7. They are always blaming you for things you cannot control.

When they do something wrong or make a mistake they always turn it into your fault. You are to blame for anything and everything that comes up within the relationship. If they don’t get a promotion at work, it’s because you pushed them too hard the day before, and they couldn’t focus.

Sources:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/what-would-aristotle-do/201207/stop-playing-the-blame-game

https://psychcentral.com/lib/how-to-spot-manipulation/