While it might be something we try to avoid, many of us look to please others. Sure, it’s normal to try to please the people closest to you but there have to be limits set on this kind of thing.
In this life, we all need to be focused on ourselves and making sure we are happy but that is easier said than done. While there is nothing wrong with wanting to please those you care for, if you do it on an intense level you will end up falling short when it comes to your own needs. Fitting in and working to make everyone else content is only going to make you miserable once everything is said and done.
Below I am going to go over some of the signs that might reveal you are a people-pleaser. If these signs are present in your life you are most likely overstressed and in need of a little self-care. If the people around you cannot accept you for who you are and help you in the ways you help them, stop wasting your time on them.
7 Signs You’re Being Too Much Of A People Pleaser:
1. You are seemingly unable to make your own decisions.
When it comes to your life you should be the one making the decisions. If you let other people make your decisions for you, you will never end up where you want to be in life. The more you let others choose your life for you the more clear it is that you are a people pleaser.
2. You never set proper boundaries.
In general, boundaries are needed with literally everyone. If you are unwilling to set boundaries or are unable to set proper boundaries you’re trying too hard to make the people around you happy. Boundaries are a wonderful thing that can help us to grow together through respect.
3. You tend to take on a lot more than you should.
In life, we need to know when to turn down offers or refuse to help others when we have a lot on our table already. The more you take on the more stressed you will become and with no release. The whole wide world cannot rely solely on you.
4. You struggle with saying no.
While it might not be fun to say no to other people for fear of letting them down, sometimes it is necessary. We shouldn’t be doing things we do not want to do, and we damn sure shouldn’t be forcing ourselves to work harder for someone who wouldn’t do the same for us. You need to know your limits when it comes to what you agree to.
5. You tend to do things that you might not want to do because others push you to.
If you let other people trick you into doing what they want you to do, you are an extreme people pleaser. You need to cut ties with people who do not know how to take no for an answer. These people do not respect you in any sense of the word.
6. You adjust yourself to fit better with who you’re around.
If you have to change who you are to fit in with a friend that person isn’t really as much of a friend as you might think they are. You should be free to open up and be yourself around the people you spend your time with. No one should ever make us feel like we have to change.
7. You never ask for help or accept it when it is offered.
Help is something we all need from time to time. If you are unwilling to take it and unwilling to ask for it you’re trying too hard for the people in your life. We are only human, and we all need to be willing to help one another when necessary.