Narcissists are not good at long-term relationships. They are some of the most complicated people to be with, to say the least.
If you have ever been with a narcissist, chances are you have questioned whether or not someone would be able to manage a relationship with that person for longer than you did. Narcissists sabotage their own relationships, whether they actually notice it or not. It just isn’t possible for a narcissist to remain interested in one person for very long, as they are only interested in what you can do for them. Once they are no longer gaining anything, their interest quickly fades.
7 Reasons Why Narcissists and Long-Term Relationships Won’t Work:
1. They are takers and not givers.
The narcissist will take all that you offer and leave you with nothing. They are not the kind of people to help you when you need them and eventually, you will get tired of it. Whether you love this narcissist or not, you can only handle so much.
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2. They cannot handle criticism.
Narcissists are far too self-centered. They don’t like to be corrected and often become aggressive when you try to point out their mistakes. Sure, most couples go through ups and downs, but it seems like there are nothing but downs with narcissists. Their attitudes are a bit too much for most people to be able to handle. That being said, their attitudes are also not something anyone should have to put up with.
3. They set their expectations far too high.
They are always expecting far too much from the person they are with. This leaves their partners feeling like they aren’t good enough. I, for one, would never want to be in a relationship like that.
4. Their mask eventually comes off.
No matter how hidden the narcissist’s true colors are, eventually they will come to the surface. They cannot hide forever. This is just how reality is.
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5. They get bored.
Once the narcissist has sucked you dry, he or she will get bored. When this happens, they will move onto the next person. Whether you want them to or not an end is inevitable.
Eventually, the person who is dating the narcissist will get tired of their self-centeredness. We all want someone who appreciates us and takes the time to think about our needs as we do theirs. When we don’t have this, we might deal with it for a while, but at some point, we realize that enough is enough.
7. They don’t really care.
The narcissist doesn’t really care about anyone but themselves. Whether the person they are with knows this or not, it will kill the relationship at some point. You can’t be with someone who lies, breaks promises, and makes you feel like shit for the rest of your life. To be honest, you shouldn’t be with that kind of person in the first place.
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Yes, I know the narcissist is charming and knows how to draw people in, but once you realize what you are dealing with, you should always do what is best for you. If you are in a relationship with someone who treats you like shit, please get rid of them, you deserve better.
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