Relationships are not easy, a lot of the time we end up hurting one another even when we don’t realize we are doing so. Sure, you might not want to hurt or upset your partner, but chances are you already have without them even actually showing it.
Below, I am going to go over some of the ways in which we tend to hurt one another without meaning to. Sure you don’t see it, but your partner feels it. We all need to be a little more aware of the things we do to the people we love.
6 Ways You Might Be Hurting Your Partner Without Realize It:
When we make ourselves out to be the victim when we aren’t we hurt our partners. Sure, we think we are just playing around and getting our way, we’re in some cases taking things too far. You shouldn’t push your partner to do things just because you want them to, they are their own person.
2. Not telling them the whole story/situation.
Withholding information from your partner might seem fine in the moment, but it only creates confusion. This can hurt your partner more when he or she hears the whole story. While you might be uncomfortable in explaining, you need to do so. It is better that they hear it from you than someone else. “Transparent Love: The Power of Honesty in Relationships“ is an insightful book that delves into the importance of transparency and open communication in building trust.
3. Using silence against them.
Giving your partner the silent treatment makes them feel as if they do not matter to you. The more they try to talk to you, the harder you ignore them. Ignoring your partner doesn’t resolve any real issues, it just makes things worse.
When you guilt-trip your partner, you are trying to force something on them. In doing that, you are making them give in to you and do something that they do not want to do. The longer it takes to guilt-trip them into something, the more damage you’re doing to the person in general. Sure, you don’t see anything wrong with bugging them, but what if things were reversed? For those seeking to understand and overcome the manipulation tactics in relationships, “Beyond Guilt: Recognizing and Releasing Manipulative Relationships“ offers practical advice and strategies.
If you are someone that tends to nag a lot, you might want to try and cut back. Your partner is already stressed and if you keep adding to it things are only going to get worse. Sure, sometimes nagging is needed, but if the thing you’re nagging about is already bothering your partner, you need to think of a better way to talk about it.
6. Giving them false hope instead of telling the truth.
Giving your partner false hope about something you already know the truth behind is only going to make them feel worse when things go down. While you should believe in your partner, you should also be able to sit down and talk with one another. If you know something they should know share the information. In “Hope vs. Reality: Balancing Expectations in Your Relationship,” couples can find guidance on how to maintain a balance between optimism and realism, ensuring both partners are on the same page.