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A lot of people have this idea that when you find the perfect relationship, things will be all sunshine and daisies. This could not be further from the truth.

The thing is, all relationships go through stressful periods. The trick is making it through them. The deciding factor on whether a relationship is strong or not is not if the two people are perfect for each other, it is if they can grow and evolve through the hard spots. When stressful times hit, they can make things very difficult. Two very happy partners can suddenly feel at war with one another. So, how do you make it through? Well, I am glad you asked.

1. Spend more time together.

When stress hits, it might be tempting to withdraw. DO NOT do this. This will only add more stress. Instead, carve out quality time together.

2. Teamwork makes the dream work.

When you are tackling the problems, remember to work as a team to fight the stressors, do not fight each other. Once you begin pitting yourself against your partner, you are asking for trouble.

3. Have trust.

When all else fails, have trust. It won’t be easy. If trust was easy our world would be way different. Trust is something you will have to force at times. Just remember that without trust, the relationship is nothing.

4. Reminisce on the good times.

When times get tough, keep in mind how good things were before. When you carve out time together, make it a point to bring up the good times.

5. Ask for advice.

It might be hard to do, but asking for advice can make all the difference in the world. Sometimes, we are simply too close to our problems to see the solution. Asking someone on the outside can give you a new perspective.

6. Be honest.

Remain honest, even when it’s not easy. What I mean, is that if the stress is due to problematic behavior, you need to be honest with yourself and your partner. Just remember not to name-call.