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As a parent, it’s essential to create a bedtime routine that sets the stage for a peaceful night’s sleep for your child. Bedtime is a time for relaxation, comfort, and positive communication. However, some words can harm your child’s mental and emotional well-being, making it difficult for them to drift off to sleep. Here are six things to never say to your child before bed.

“You’re going to fail.”

Telling your child that they will fail is a sure way to increase their anxiety levels and cause them to have negative thoughts. Instead, encourage them by saying positive things such as, “I believe in you,” and “You’re doing great.”

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk” by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish offers strategies for effective and empathetic communication with your children.

“I’m disappointed in you.”

Children want to please their parents, and hearing that you’re disappointed can be devastating for them. Instead, focus on their positive qualities, and if there is a problem, work together to find a solution.

“I don’t have time for you.”

Children need attention and affection, especially before bedtime. Telling your child that you don’t have time for them can make them feel neglected and unloved. Make an effort to spend quality time with your child before bedtime, even if it’s just a few minutes of reading together.

“You’re being a baby.”

Children are still learning how to process their emotions, and dismissing their feelings as “babyish” can make them feel ashamed and embarrassed. Instead, listen to their concerns and offer comfort and reassurance.

The 5 Love Languages of Children: The Secret to Loving Children Effectively” by Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell can help you understand your child’s emotional needs and how to fulfill them.

“I wish you were more like your sibling.”

Comparing your child to their sibling can create feelings of jealousy and resentment. Instead, celebrate your child’s unique qualities and accomplishments, and help them feel valued for who they are.

Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Live Too” by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish provides insights into fostering harmonious sibling relationships.

“You’re not good enough.”

Telling your child that they’re not good enough can damage their self-esteem and create negative self-talk. Instead, praise them for their efforts and help them to develop a growth mindset where they see challenges as opportunities for growth.

In conclusion, what you say to your child before bedtime can have a significant impact on their mental and emotional well-being. As a parent, it’s crucial to use positive language that encourages and supports your child. Remember that your child looks up to you and that your words can have a lasting effect on their self-esteem and confidence.