If you tend to be the one who is always chasing everyone else, it can get old fast. However, if you are ready for a paradigm shift, keep reading, because I have five secrets to making other people start chasing you.
People like to be desired. It’s just hard-wired into us. But, admittedly, there are typically two types of people: those who chase and those who get chased. If you are typically the one who does the chasing, then you have likely gotten tied into this persona. However, you can turn the tables and become the one who gets chased. If you are wondering how exactly to go about that, here are 5 helpful tips.
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1. Stop chasing others.
You have to be the energy you want to attract. What I mean by this, is that if you want to be the one who is getting chased, you have to stop chasing others. Instead, remember, that you don’t have to chase anyone, and you are worthy of being chased. If you are struggling with your self-image, focus on the next tip, especially. To help reinforce this mindset, consider reading “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck” by Mark Manson. Manson’s book is a brilliant guide on focusing on what truly matters, helping you to prioritize your own well-being and attract people who value what you have to offer.
2. Work on yourself.
You do not have to be Megan Fox to get someone to chase you. If you have hangups about yourself, work on them. Take time to focus on your hygiene, wear nice clothes, be kind, and become a person that is changeable. I do not mean that you are unworthy of being chased as is, but if you struggle to think you are worthy of being chased, what is it that you believe is holding you back? Think about that, and work on yourself. Self-improvement is key. It’s not about changing who you are, but enhancing your best qualities. For tips on personal grooming and style that make you feel confident, “The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up” by Marie Kondo can be a transformative read.
3. Have your own life.
Nothing is more unappealing than having someone completely revolve their entire existence around you. A person will quickly lose respect for you if they believe they are the center of your universe. Build your own life, spend time with friends, participate in hobbies, go out and about and create your own life. When you have your own life, you don’t sideline your own priorities for another person. Period. “The Happiness Project” by Gretchen Rubin is an excellent resource for finding joy in the everyday and building a life that makes you fulfilled, making you all the more attractive to others.
4. Do NOT come off as desperate.
If you are always obsessing over this person and appearing as though you desperately need them, you are going to put them off. If you’re struggling with anxiety in social situations, consider “Daring Greatly” by Brené Brown. Brown’s insights into vulnerability and connection can help you interact authentically with others without coming across as desperate, instead drawing people towards your genuine self. This might be hard to hear, but it is the absolute truth. When he messages you, do not drop everything you are doing to run to the phone and reply. Take your time. Let them earn your interest. It’s okay to show interest, but don’t act too crazy over them, as it is off-putting.
5. If they pull back-don’t lose your cool.
If they don’t immediately reply to you, don’t lose your cool. Stay patient and let them come back to you on their own. If they don’t- let them go.
6. Make them miss you.
Don’t always be at their beck and call. Make them come to you. It’s okay to go off the radar from time to time. Spend some time with your friends, don’t immediately respond to them, and take some time for yourself. Making space for them to miss you is very important. “Wherever You Go, There You Are” by Jon Kabat-Zinn offers excellent mindfulness techniques to help you stay centered and calm, regardless of the dating dynamics at play.
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