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The journey to find love is not always an easy one. For some of us, it can be quite daunting to find and keep love.

Because of that, it can be quite tempting to settle to avoid being lonely. However, that is the worst thing that you can do. While loneliness may seem like the worst thing in the world, I assure you that it is not. What is worse is being with someone that you don’t want to be with, and inevitably breaking both of your hearts when you finally realize you cannot force love.

If you are trying to find love, please remember these 6 reasons to stay single until you find the right person for you.

1. Settling causes a toxic dynamic.

When you settle for someone, even if you don’t intend to, you are putting a strange energy into the relationship. They will never feel good enough because you will know they aren’t the right one deep down. Ultimately, this will cause a toxic dynamic that can be devastating to both of your mental health.

2. You will waste years of your life you could have spent looking for the right person.

If you decide to settle to save time, your actions will be counterproductive. The thing is- you are going to end up wasting years of your life with a person that isn’t right for you. Yes, you might be able to make it work, but in the back of your mind, you will always wonder what would have happened if you had just waited for the right guy.

3. The relationship you wait for will last.

There again, you can settle, but it isn’t likely it will last. The odds will be stacked against you in more ways than one.

4. Choosing the wrong partner will destroy your sense of self.

When you ‘settle’ and decide to be with someone that does not align with your values, goals, and overall intentions, you are sending a message to your self-esteem. The message is that you aren’t worthy of the right person, but instead should go against your greater knowledge and just accept what you can get. Of course, no matter what-you should never settle.

5. It’s okay to have different goals.

If love isn’t happening for you, it might just simply be not the right time. Instead, there may be other goals that you should be focusing on. What I mean by this is that it’s okay to have different goals than other people have. It might seem like the most important thing is finding a partner, but instead, you would greatly benefit from going to school, making a major life change, etc.

6. You can use that time to become what you wish to attract.

If you are not growing and evolving, it will be difficult to find someone to live up to that standard. What I mean is that we often attract our energy-so if you are shooting for a person that is further along on their journey of self-discovery, it’s a good idea to take some time to work on you.