Children are vulnerable, and to them, the world can be a very scary and uncertain place. That is why we must show them that the world is not this unsafe place and that no matter what, we will protect them.
That is why promises can be so beneficial. Of course, you don’t want to make any promises you can’t keep. However, you do want to make sure that you are making the right promises to them and that you stand by those promises every single day. Here are 6 promises all moms should make to their children.
1. No matter what you do, I’ll always love you.
Your kids need to know that your love does not come with conditions. This means, that no matter what choices they make, you will stand by them and love them. This is especially important for your child to know, because eventually they will make choices you aren’t the biggest fan of, and in those moments, it’s your job to keep your promise.
2. I promise I will prepare you for what you will face in this life.
Your child needs to know that they are going to make it in this world and that you will do everything in your power to make that happen. They need to feel safe going into the real world. That means that you will have to stand by your promise and prepare them for the world.
3. I will always allow you to be yourself, instead of forcing you to be who I want you to be.
When we raise kids, we often have a certain idea of how they will turn out. However, children are their people and they turn into the person they want to be, not always the ones we may want them to be. Make a promise to your child that you will always allow them to be their selves.
4. I promise to let you go when you are ready.
One day, your little bird will leave your nest. It will be a difficult time, but when they are ready, you cannot stop them.
5. I promise to let you make mistakes.
Everyone makes mistakes. When your child does, do not make it seem like it’s the end of the world. Instead, give them some grace.
6. I will discipline, not punish.
There is a difference between disciplining and punishing your kids. Punishment is more reaction oriented, while discipline is calm teaching. You should always strive to discipline versus punish.