Death is perhaps one of the most controversial topics because there is so much we do not realize about dying. However, unfortunately, we all will ‘meet our maker’ one day, and because of that, it’s best to understand what is and what isn’t true.
Death is pretty terrifying. It means that we are no longer alive, and because we are born with survival instincts, it’s pretty natural to be afraid. When a loved one is near their point of no return, it is quite scary. What makes it even worse is that a lot of us are completely misguided when it comes to death. Having the wrong information can make the total event much worse than it has to be. Below, I am going to cover 6 myths about dying that need to stop, now.
1. Hospice = death.
Most people hear the word ‘hospice’ and immediately assume the worst. However, hospice is not always a death sentence. On the contrary, while hospice is often used in cases in which a patient has less than 6 months to live, it is also suggested for any patients that need at-home care.
2. Pain meds are given to accelerate death.
Another common misconception about death is that pain medicine is used to bring death on faster. This could not be further from the truth. Pain meds are given to help the patient to experience less suffering when they are on the verge of death, not to hasten the process.
3. If you aren’t there when your loved one dies, you are not a caring person.
The thing is- when your loved one is near death, there is no telling at what moment their death will actually occur. Many people who are dying wait until they are completely alone. Your presence or absence has nothing to do with when your family member will pass away.
4. When death is near, you need to do everything to keep them alive.
While none of us want our family members to die, there is no way around it. So, while it is good to give it your best effort when there is still a fighting chance, once your loved one has reached the point in which they are dying, you may have to let them go.
5. You shouldn’t cry near your dying loved one.
Death is an emotional time. It’s difficult and there is no way around it. The thing is- crying and sadness is a normal reaction to death. It’s a true expression of your feelings. So whatever you are feeling, feel it.
6. You should remain positive around your dying loved one.
There is nothing wrong with being positive. It’s good to be positive and reminisce about happy memories. However, if your loved one wants to talk about what is happening – listen to them and let them talk. Don’t try to talk over them and redirect them to be more positive.