Once upon a time, I wouldn’t cut anyone out of my life. There were many times that I would excuse the worst behavior in the name of loyalty, and now, that is no longer who I am.
Do not get me wrong, I still consider myself to be a loyal person. However, sometimes that means I need to be loyal to myself first and foremost. Throughout my life, there were times when I ignored the red flags and let people take advantage of me because I thought that somewhere within them, there was light. Many times over, I found out that some people just aren’t meant to be in my life.
Below, I will go over 6 brutally honest reasons why I have started cutting people out of my life.
1. No shared moral ground.
There is a huge difference between having a few differences and having completely different morals and ethics. At the end of the day, it is nearly impossible to be around someone who sees the world in a completely different light than you do. Now, don’t get me wrong, I can accept that people have different morals, I just prefer not to share my space and time with them regularly.
2. I noticed legit red flags.
As soon as I notice red flags like lying, manipulation, a continued victim mentality, abuse, etc., I am done. Far too many times have I let someone tell me a sob story and then take advantage of me or the people I love. I will no longer stand for this.
3. Disrespect.
When someone continues to disrespect you, they are telling you who they are and while once upon a time, I didn’t listen, I do now. If someone disrespects me, I am out.
4. I simply don’t have time for games.
I refuse to play games. If I notice someone who is always pitting people against each other, gossiping about me and my friends, or always trying to stir the pot, they are out.
5. Dishonesty.
Dishonesty is a big deal to me because if you are dishonest to me, I cannot take you seriously. After all, I cannot trust you. Without trust, I cannot have you in my life.
6. They are taking more than they are giving.
Some people are natural-born givers and some are takers. In life, there should be a balance. However, if I notice someone just keeps taking and taking and taking and never gives back, they are likely going to get the boot right on out of my life.